My husband is much more sick than we thought, I found out today. I feel embarassed because I felt numb, started lining up things, making contingency plans, sticking to the facts, focusing on accomplishing daily goals, and managing the needs of my students. Until I vomited so violently it came out my nose, my students were shocked, and I had to get a colleague to take over the class. This is annoying, my body needs to cooperate, I have things to do and peeps to take care of.
I am also embarassed by how far my tummy distends.
Sounds like you moved into 'cope' mode, nothing to be embarassed about there. When things get to much to deal with and emotions too gut wrenching then we move into 'cope' mode and automatically start organizing and doing whatever it takes to 'normalize' the situation, anything to stay in control because the alternative is to breakdown.
When I am in that mode it is like I have found some hidden strength I didn't know I had. I should be breaking down, I should be feeling, I should be screaming out my pain, but I am numb and focused.
I have IBS symptoms which are related to my internalizing anger and emotions and not expressing them. When I get upset I get an upset stomach and have done so throughout my life.
As for what am I ashamed of.........my French is appalling. (I live in France)