Odder than a song, a movie, an image?

Well, maybe a little odder, but not outside the envelope of reasonable behaviour

It's not odd at all. Gaming was an interest these two people shared. It was a bond between them. When you do an activity you shared with someone you loved and who is dead, it is an attempt to reconnect, to hold on to what remains of that person's memory.

It's not odd at all. You've got to realize how far video games have come. This isn't Pong.

At times, Skyrim and other games present themselves almost as "moving paintings", constantly presenting new moments of beauty. Not to mention the feelings of escape, adventure, nostalgia, and joy a well-crafted game can bring.

TES is important to this person, and was something he and his wife shared together. So of course Skyrim is going to affect him in unbelievable ways, and the memories and feeling associated will be imprinted in his very being for the rest of his life.

Is it odd? No. No it's not.

No need to apologize, I'm probably the "hijacker" here anyway but I couldn't "browse by" what you said.

Being a father of 5 myself, with child #2 (20 year old daughter) being closer to me than anyone on the planet, I can't fathom
dealing with your loss.

You're a damn hero every time you get out of bed as far as I'm concerned.

My family will keep you in our thoughts every day.

Not trying to be rude but no one knows if this is true or not.. I mean, this IS the interwebz after all, no? :spotted owl:

You need to stop it. Yes you have a right to your nerd rage but do not defend it on this thread.

It's not any more weird than a father and son who used to go fishing together having nostalgia over this. Fishing could never be the same again to that father, or son. People share a bond with different things, that is all.

Ah. My generation never fails to disappoint.

My condolences to man in the original post as well as the poster that lost a daughter. It's funny. My great grandmother used to play checkers by herself everyday. She would stop when I got there and we would play. I never thought to ask her why she played alone and never thought to ask my family either. Then one day, I asked. She told me she was playing against Baba (Cuban nickname we had for my great grandfather). She said she had played with him so many times over so many years, that she knew how he would play. She also said it was her way of keeping him alive.

Point is, it doesn't matter what medium it is if it helps you keep the memories of loved ones alive.

Lets not turn this into a "point making" thread guys experience is completely seperate from "Complaints" and does not endorse or downplay them in any shape or form show some respect to the guy.

Best regards to him.

This should be stickied. I don't think this post should be lost in a sea of less meaningful posts

All of my tears for this man and his son.

word.

My wife hates gaming, but I couldn't imagine having to lose her. Very sorry for your loss.

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ANYWAY, OP i am so sincerely sorry for your loss. I hope Skyrim truly makes things easier for you and your family in terms of coping. I agree with what others have said, you sir are a hero to be able to pull yourself out of bed ever morning and take care of your family. God bless. :hugs:

My condolences.

It is heartbreaking.

It's doesn't matter if its true or not. Its merely a letter of kind words that makes should make us thankful for what we have, and cherish those close to us.

True or untrue, it doesn't matter. Just take it at face value.

Sad story. Hope that guy is able to move past it.

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My father passed away unexpectedly when Oblivion released. I couldn't get around to playing the game for 2 weeks due to taking care of family affairs. As Skyrim was nearing release a lot of old memories about that came up. I think I'll always associate Elder Scrolls games with that major event in my life.

My condolences to the father and child.

Yes...it is sad story.

However, it's only humane that a person suffering from a great sorrow attempts to flee reality (and playing a game is a way to do this) and to find solace in his memories (remembering a loved one as a gamer is still a memory).

Is this testimony truly about Skyrim?

No. In fact, it's not. While the author could be truly grateful to the developers for give him a mean to cope with his loss (and surely he is), it's more about the loss of a loved one than about Skyrim.

Cynical comments are out-of-place and tactless as much as using this testimony as a club into the silly "fan-boy-vs.-complainers" brawl and only moderating the former is as much tactless in my opinion.

Apart from these considerations, the only comment I feel appropriate in front of Death is silence. Condolescenses are void words and cynical remarks are just forgetting that those things could happen to us too...

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This widower if finding solace in playing a game both he and his wife were looking forward to. There is no need to criticize him, comment that his behavior is weird, or turn this into a discussion of Skyrim's bugs or failed expectations. Clearly the widower mentioned in the opening post is getting something from the game, if you aren't there are other threads in which to post your complaints. Posts of this nature will be deleted and the poster warned for ignoring repeated moderator calls to keep this thread civil and on topic.

I'm happy Skyrim has helped someone through a tragedy.

Just bumping this, since I figure it's worth a bump.

Love and grief both are often irrational. As is emotional energy.

Movies aren't real, but they make people cry and hold them close to their heart. Personally, I find men going crazy at a sporting event absurd, but I won't deny the accumulated bank of emotional energy it has become for them. The same is true for television series or role-playing games. It doesn't matter what the emotional energy has been banked in. The fact is, it exists for a lot of people, in a lot of different ways.

The important thing to realize is that this particular instance is not about *you*, and you don't have to understand it. And going out of your way to point out how you don't understand it is as pointless as it is tactless. The thing to do would be to show support, or don't bother saying anything at all.

My boyfriend and I have a full, rich life, and also spend wonderful moments adventuring together in this game or that. I can relate to how he might feel.

A beautiful, and perfect response.

Thank you

thanks to the mods for keeping this in check.

just to reiterate if you have nothing kind to say please keep it to yourself