For me, it's all coming back to the Quixotic action of..... despite being aware of both Bethesda's distinct history of games and being aware of FO3 in particular, you're claiming that you're so disappointed because you were expecting FO4 to be like 1 & 2. Which ranks right up there with expecting, oh, the sun to rise in the West tomorrow morning.
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As for games..... yeah, I played Fallout 1 back in the day. Good game. I've played Wasteland 2 & Divinity:Original Sin. Good games. But I also played & enjoyed FO3 & NV. As well as several years of WoW. Also good games.
(I'll admit that I'm not interested in Pillars of Eternity, since it seems to be going for a "return of Baldur's Gate" vibe, and I just wasn't able to enjoy Baldur's Gate 1. Had to claw my way through Dragon Age:Origins, as well. Due to game mechanics in both cases..... I prefer full turn-based when playing isometric party RPGs.)
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I don't necessarily subscribe to the view, but I've seen plenty of arguments over the years from "RPG purists" who don't consider games like Diablo/Torchlight/etc to be RPGs (ditto with JRPGs). And I'll admit I've been a bit surprised when I've seen people talk about the Deus Ex games as RPGs.
(and yes - I've enjoyed the heck out of all sorts of ARPGs and JRPGs over the years. I do kinda miss when Final Fantasy was still turn-based instead of super-action-button-masher, though.)
...oh, and Primate? For what it's worth , Borderlands 2 seems to be considered a AAA game. Which would make Gearbox a AAA dev.