Never was, I've always been tall for my age, and a healthy weight too. That meant that people thought I was the "big guy" in class, which means they actually expected me to be the bully most of the time, I never was.

I would argue being excluded as a form of bullying. In general everyone I know who was excluded was excluded for a very good reason. That being said being excluded for physical looks is a terrible thing to do, but a lot of the reasons people are excluded for their personality are very valid. That's not bullying, that's people picking who is fun to be around.

Never judge a book by its cover, but if you've read it and think it is a [censored] book there is no reason to read it again.

People try but when they don't get a reaction they usually leave me alone
I'm mostly ignored in our school
And I'm always picked last in sports teams (usually picked early in running though)

Nope. I'll never let someone do that to me.

I'll go down with a fight if I have to. But I'll go with pride as well.

EDIT: Bad wording :/

ehh, doesn't really bother me now, the only thing that does bother me is when people assume something about me when they don't truly know, but now a-days if they do do that I figure they're not worth my time and are missing out on possibly having me as a friend.

Speaking from personal experience, you have no idea how hurtful verbal abuse can really be.
Given the choice, I would have much rather been beaten to a pulp. Let's leave it at that.

Words can leave scars deeper than any blade.

agreed

I was afraid to contest that for fear that it would start a debate, but Metrophor is right. the most vivid images of abuse I remember were the ones that involved verbal abuse more than physical abuse.

the above poster pretty much summed up any argument about this, so very true

Being excluded because of the way you look, thats bullying. "He wears glasses, what a nerd, no one better bring him in the group", "I know theres nothing wrong with him and he is a nice guy, but he has a bad reputation so we shouldnt let him in the group"
Thats bullying, imo



I know they can be very hurtful, very very very very hurtful. The mind is a funny wonderful thing. I dont know why, but I feel that the physical part is more.. I dunno how to say it. Theres no reason to get physical. Dont get me wrong, there is also no reason to verbally abuse someone, but I say that getting physical crosses the line, the line that determines if I should be mad or not. For me.

Nope, never bullied. Always had bigger friends who would stick up for me when the those certain situations arose. Teased, yes, but usually by my friends so I learned to laugh at myself. When you can laugh at yourself, you can't really be bullied (at least not verbally).

Teasing is bullying? By friends? By not friends?

Well, depends on the severity of it, doesn't it? Of course, I did say that I had never been bullied, and that I had been teased. I thought that would point out my opinion that they are separate. I also said I was usually teased by friends, and thus took it lightly and laughed along with them...

I hate bullying/bullies though, I've seen a few people get very depressed and almost suicidal over it. It's sad and disgusting.

I think I see a pattern in this thread:

Someone gets bullied -> That person fights back -> Bullied no more

Bullies prey on the weak, prove you are not weak and they will not pick on you. It's simple like that.

Power to the weaklings!

It depends on the bully and the target; there's no catch-all solution. Generally, the bullies who will be stopped by that are the ones doing it because they know the victim is going to get in more trouble for it than they are. Since it acts as a deterrent to the target doing anything about it, the bully uses it as a shield, not unlike internet anonymity. If they find that shield isn't very reliable, they'll be hesitant to test it again. For every time I've seen it end bullying, however, I've also seen it increase it. If the person is being deliberately targeted to get a response out of them, fighting back can make it worse because now people know it works. Some bullies may be actively looking for a fight so that they can feel tough.

Yep I was. Until I was around 14-15, and then even until I was 17 sometimes. But man, once you leave school everything is put in perspective, you realise that the "cool" people are really the losers, and the ones who were bullied for working hard, or being good at things will be better off in the long run.

What I want to know is are there any stereotypical jock bullies? All the sports people I knew were smart and courteous, it was the failing students and bike shed smokers who where the dikes.

If you consider the words the most hurtful, then it would be best to make the words stop coming, even if you have to act drastically you know what I'm saying?



Also, Solid Moose, yeah I noticed that too, the jocks are usually disciplined enough to get good grades and want to be courteous to people, from my experiences anyway.

Relentlessly.

A little. Back in elementary school it wasn't bad at all. I was the nice kid that was everyone's friend. But when I got older, things got bad. See, my town has about 5 elementary schools, and the middle school (which used to be 6-8th grades) got over-crowded. So, when I was in 4th grade, they made a new level, which was Intermediate School, and that was 5-6, while middle school was 7-8. Basically, they forced middle school on us a year too early, and when everyone in town finally mixed together in intermediate school, I was one of the kids who was still pretty much in elementary school. I looked younger, acted younger, and dressed younger than the other kids. They picked on me for it. That lasted to 8th grade when I actually got into a fight with a kid over it. It was a small fight, and there really was no clear winner, but it was in that confrontation that I became a pacifist because I came to understand how truly stupid fighting is when you're a kid, and I started developing my care-free attitude that has saved me in high school. It's not like I'm the kid people pick on, but I'm no where near popular, but I've stopped caring. Yeah, I'm the somewhat nerdy kid (ish), I have glasses, I'd rather read a book than play sports, but oh well, I don't let the jerks ruin my good day. Every year of high school has gotten better and better for me. I'm going into my senior year, and I've got my friends who accept me, I've got a girlfriend, I've got my fashion style, I've got my music, and I've got myself, and I'm better than anyone who wants to bring me down.

Yeah a guy at my High School killed himself, didn't really know him well, but in a small community it still hits hard. Bullies are pathetic, I saw one bully who was a Junior picking a fight with(get this) a 7th Grader. The kid couldn't do anything about it. Funny thing though was then the Bully got his ass beat by a Senior I went to church with who saw what was happening.

Anyway, no I've never been bullied. The only time anyone tried was in Middle School, but its like other posters have said I fought back and won.

Not really. I guess the kids where I am are mostly nice. I mean, I play Dungeons and Dragons, Warhammer 40k and other video games and I don't hide it or anything, no one seems to care. Hell, most popular kids just ignore me, and pretty much the most popular kid in my grade joined my DnD group after getting to know me. I'm tall, though that might have something to do with it. Well, there was this one time in Elementary School where a kid bullied me a lot, but he was a psychopath and bullied everyone. I guess he might have bullied me a bit more than everyone else. One time he was doing something, I think it might have been trying to kick me (He was a moron so I would just dodge), and he did it constantly. I told him that if he kept doing it, I would hurt him. I ended up slapping him so hard that he cried and ran to one of the supervisors. Everyone knew he was a psychopath, though, so I got of scott-free.

I was bullied from about seventh grade through tenth grade (12-15). Changed schools about the time I got "pudgy". It was quite miserable. The summer I turned 16 I shot up about five inches to 6' 3" and the 185 lbs fit my frame much better. I was towering over most of the students in my high school. Most didn't even recognize me I changed so much in the space of five months. It also helped that my parents bought me a new Toyota Celica on my 16th birthday to celebrate my getting a drivers license. Talk about a weird transformation - in the space of less than a half year I went from short, fat dork to tall and reasonable "cool" with a nice set of wheels to ride to school in (instead of the yellow school bus most of bullies had to suffer). Needless to say, the bullying stopped.

Nope, easily could have been though.
I've always been larger than others in school, in both height and width. Although I'm not fat I was never skinny. Also, I'm a massive nerd.

There have been attempts by people to make me a victim, but it never caught on. I'm pretty open about my nerdyness and I think that took some of the fun away from the potential bully. This was mostly in middle school I guess.
In high school I found it really easy to get along with the girls, which kept most a holes off my back.

I was that shy kid that didn't wasn't in the "in" crowd. I was low profile with most kids in my grade, but I had a lot of friends older and younger. I wasn't bullied after one incident where I almost punched a kid in the face for throwing a graqe at the back of my head. I turned around red faced with my fist about to fly and then I saw who it was... He was a bully, sort of. I was twice his size and probably would have knocked him out with one blow. He flinched and his friends made fun of him and I walked away. That was about the extent of my being bullied.

Yes, and it's still going on. And like they all say, fighting back doesn't help, ignoring them doesn't help and telling the techers does no good. They seem to find every little possible thing to bully and annoy me. I'm always that 'nerdy kid' that everyone picks on; people push me, yell at me "Hey! Nobody likes you!", laugh at me as I walk pass them (not that kind of haha laugh, but a mocking one), and one time when we were on class camp, as I was walking towards my friends, a bully walked up to me and said " Get lost. Freak." At least my friends stand up for me when their around, but now that I'm in Middle School (Years 7-9. At my school Middle school is High school) the bullies make it worse.