If you're bullied, the best course of action is to either learn self defense or join a sports team. If you learn self defense, you can put some fear into those bullying you, or if you join a team you'll most likely make friends who'll be able to protect you somewhat. Those both worked for people I know.

I second that. Although I'm a very much capable fighter, usually, attacking them means you get in trouble rather than the bully. Tell the teacher and if they don't do anything, go for indirect revenge. For example, ruin the kid's life mentally. To bullies, I have a sick pleasure in doing that. Making all of their friends leave and making THEM be bullied, not by me of course.

Meh, I believe in equal justice. No more, no less. If somebody hits me, I hit him right back. If somebody bullies me, I toy with their social life until they get bullied. My influence is awesome like that, having friends helps, especially friends on different sports teams and other extracurricular activities.

But remember that if you do attack them, you better either have a really good right hook and be sure no teachers care enough to help you out. Use violence as a last resort if the school faculty chooses not to help.

yes and no

given my one eye and other very noticeable physical differences people assume I was bullied 24/7

oddly, I wasn't.

From First to Fourth Grade I was literally an outcast. No one wanted me around, I was told to go away if I came near a group of kids playing and kids talked and spread rumors behind my back. However no one really actively went after me. No one wanted anything to do with me, even bullies didn't want to be seen around me.

Then after fourth grade that all changed and I became a human punching bag. Kids did actively track me down and made life absolutely miserable. One thing imparticulary that I really had trouble with were kids pretending to be my friends and then stabbing me in the back weeks, or in one case, months later. (I called him my best friend and honestly thought he was a good guy, was an incredibly sad day for me) Middle School was the worst, I have bullied intensely then, which leads me to this.

Bullying in Middle School is normal, virtually everyone was bullied heavily during their middle school years.
High School does get better with that, depending where you go. I was bullied in High school for about a year but he eventually grew out of it. No one's really sought to hurt me since then.

:shrug: Maybe its because I go to a smaller school. I agree that 'tell teachers' is probably the lamest (and most ineffective) option around, but its the only one that doesn't get you in trouble also. The only time I will ever hit someone is if they hit me first.

Or a nice, repeated kicking to the nads. And, you're right about usually being the one getting in trouble for hitting them, they'll just repeat 'You should of told the teacher'. I've seen that many times at school.

Say whaaaat? I've heard about school stabbings, but exploding vases? Wow.

Oh my yes. As a few others posters I get the "emo" [censored] all the time, got a rock thrown at me, hit me right in the face - fat lip. Get into highschool, called emo about 4 days a week, grade 10 food thrown at me in the "jock" hall, now I'm in grade 11, and basically stepped [censored] up, me and my friend have no sympathy for anyone who looks at us wrong now, and like others also, we don't take the physical route, I go to a pretty dumbed down school, so we just outwit them with big fancy words, and minor, but "big" insults, no one likes us really, well, except our other friends, everyone else just doesn't say much towards me , or us anymore

-Double post.

Exactly. That is especially true when the odds are 15 against 1. It was either shut up and take it, or get gang beat when the coach wasn't looking. There's no noble "standing up for yourself" and making the bullies back off. There's just a date with the emergency room in your future. It gets even worse when the coach, the head coach, the athletic director, and the principal are all cronies of ringleaders' fathers, so anything you say is laughed off, and anything you do lands you in big trouble.

I feel you there. I grew up in a small redneck town, where the athletes were the meat and potatoes of the school. I was bullied from 2nd grade until 12th grade, despite reporting them to teachers, to principals, I had my parents step in. I did everything short of calling the cops(which wouldn't have done anything either because, naturally, the cops were friends with the dads of the sports players). I had possessions stolen, mutilated, ripped to shreds. I even had the principal observe from a distance once(it was accidental, not pre-planned) two of the guys steal 2 books from my book-bag, rip them to shreds right in front of me, and literally not even give them detention or pay me back for the books. I stood up to some of them even, including beating the [censored] out of one of them in a bathroom(I was not a small kid, and while I admit I was fat, I also had a fair amount of muscle), and still they persisted. Finally, in my 12th grade year, I both became A: A stoner, and B: A violent stoner, who threatened to beat the [censored] out of a teacher with a chair(teacher was friends with the jocks, always working out with them in gyms, and so for some reason he thought it appropriate to pick up their bullying of me), and also one of said bullies. I also made friends with a few other guys who, while not jocks, were fairly popular(and big). After the 2nd chair incident people got the idea that I was likely to snap soon and finally decided to leave me alone.

The moral of the story is: Sometimes nothing can or will stop bullies, no matter how many different approaches you take, from passive acceptism, to reporting them to school authorities, to even fighting back. It's not until you go insane to the point where people are afraid you're going to bring a gun to school that they finally lay off. Please note: this was before Columbine, so apparently even jocks are smart enough to realize(without another form of reference) when they've gone entirely to far.

I seriously advise no-one take my approach in this modern day and age, because even if you have gone to school authorities many times with your complaints of being bullied, if you threatened a teacher now-a-days, you'll not only get thrown out of school, you'll probably end up in juvenile detention center. I grew up before all the school shootings happened, so when I went crazy, I only got suspended from school for 3 days, because, obviously, the school authorities knew how many times I had been bullied and just deemed that I had finally had enough.


Edit: Oh, and for anyone who doesn't believe that the cops wouldn't have done anything, I figured I'd post up a funny little tidbit: The chief of the local police force was fired because a state cop caught him doing Cocaine with one of the students. Another cop was thrown out for having been caught buying drugs from an under-cover state officer, and within 6 months of those two being fired/imprisoned, the other two local police officers resigned their positions, presumably because they knew heat was coming their way. The last I heard they had fled to Mexico. This was approximately 1 1/2 years after I graduated from my high-school. We now have an all new police force. Funnily enough, the chief is a former Basketball star for our school, and he is actually well respected and does not hesitate to crack down on kids, be them athletes or not. I guess people can learn after-all

That sounds terrible. This kind of stuff in this day and age, and in a supposedly "civilized" country, just makes me sick.

Yep. I was bullied for the first 8 years of school. It was never anything physical. It was just spreading false rumors about me, insults, leaving out of group and so on. It got so bad that in sixth (and thankfully last) year of elementary I couldn't live an hour without someone calling me names and laughing at me.

I've mostly recovered from it, and I feel the need of revenge only for a few individuals (the ringleaders), but the bullying left me with permanent mental scars. It made me a depressed, anti-social narcissist with a dramatic superiority complex and a strong sense that I am being hunted, oppressed Not to mention a huge phobia of letting anyone inside my personal space, the reason I've never been in a relationship. "Trust is temporary. Emotions control relations. Hang with who you like but trust no one, for they will only harm you" as I say to myself. And no, no amount of therapy will get me over it for I feel terrible and I love it.


EDIT: And yes, I did tell about the bullying to my teachers, parents. But me against dozens of those who hate me? It didn't end well. They pretty much called me paranoid, and implied that it was my fault that I had such bad relations with people. That was the turning point. I was in third grade then. That was the moment I changed. From the innocent, giggling boy who liked toy cars I went to an isolated guy who cried himself to sleep for years to come and never told anyone what was wrong. I still remember how my mom asked, "why are you crying?" when I got out of school. "Nothing." I said and ran to my room.

Oh boy do I wait school reunion of 2014.

Yea I can't think of anybody that hasn't this one kid still says seven years ago I bit him. I have no relocation of doing so meh oh well.

For what I hae read you sound like an awesome guy, I am sure in 2014 those people will recognize that, enjoy being better than them when you meet them again.

I know what its like to have people erode your self esteem for years, even my "friends" mocked me, I hung around them becuase I didnt want to be that lonely, but they just ruined my confidence. Now I take things more seriously, and people complain about how I have no emotions, I didnt cry myself to sleep, or I dont remember that, but it definately left me paranoid, if I walk in the street and hear people laugh I assume its me, hear my name assume they talk about me. I hate it. Allthough I dont hold it against the kids, I am sure the way they saw it it wasnt too bad, but w/e whats done is done.

Maybe I'm in the minority here. Sorta makes me wish I could go back to school in a different area and experience another 'class' of schools. Though from what I understand, I got the good side of the deal. Only had to get my ass beat twice to turn the tables (And beat a lil' ass, but I don't like to brag :tongue: )

I do hope all of you take care of your bully issues. If you do take my advice, remember there's no such thing as dirty fighting when you're the little guy. Aim low

damn, its gonna svck, not gonna lie to you, it was not as bad for me in middle school though as it was for you, sounds terrible man, for me it was over in high school (its different system here) and college, I had a blast really, in those days.

so hang in there, it will only get better after you finish school, and girlfriend in school !!! never works out, it usually ends up in total fail or many diseases... what are you gonna do with a girlfriend in school?? get married have kids live together!!! forget it its a waste of time. College, work, bars that's where you meet the really interesting people :hubbahubba:

and by the way all the tough guys I went to school with are now total failures in real life, you know where people don't take [censored] and actually fight back, it great revenge is better served cold.

just avoid them and stick to your friends, if violence happens, FIGHT BACK you might lose but you will be able to hurt him (poke him in the eye, kick him in the nuts anything) and he won't dare even talk to you again, people that say don't fight are idiots, in life sometimes you just have to fight, as an advlt I never ever had to fight cause most people mature after school but as a kid I did have to throw a few kicks and punches here and there, its normal just DON"T ever use weapons of any kind, going to the principles office is one thing, but going to jail is a whole different ball game.

any way if its just the none violent kinda bullying just ignore, and I mean TOTALLY ignore like pretend they don't exist, it really pisses them off, what ever they do just don't give them the pleasure and it really makes them feel worthless, this might do one of two things:

1- they just forget about you
2- they go violent (fight back)

good luck and hang in there, life is great after school, count on it

It's just... the stupidity of that just baffles me.

I've long felt that anyone who refers to high school as the best years of your life is a terrible person who is probably trying to kill you.

Last semester, I got some major homophobia from several people, and the Juniors and Seniors went out of their way to give me hell in gym. Of course, the homophobes were in my tech class. My tech teacher is an awesome old guy though (Think Doc Mitchell from New Vegas), and he got them taken down a few notches by the principal. Now they don't do crap to me. I'm not even gay...

I never got physically bullied. Just verbally, I shrugged it off and continued to be myself, always. In the last couple years of high school, I was mainly picked on by girls, I had breakouts n such, red hair too, but none of the guys messed with me, they never picked a fight with me, one did back in my freshman year but he stopped when i stood up to him. Girls picked on me more though.

Almost...I was picked on a couple times because I'm not very big, 5'9-10" and about 140lbs. Granted this was a couple years ago so subtract a bit from each of those. Kids picked on me, and I had a terrible temper(that I can control now thankfully), one time out of school one of them started shoving me around until my temper got the best of my and I flipped out on him. I broke his nose and was never picked on again .

I used to be bullied a lot back in elementary and junior high school. It's not as bad now that I've learned to just ignore people, but it's taken a toll on my social skills.

I picked my nose in grade school, they called me booger boy and junk.

Middle school was the worse. Everyone going through there puberty stage and scared of everything leading to everyone stabbing each other in the back do compensate for things they are afraid make them less than others. (My theory anyways)

High school everyone grew up(mostly) or I didn't know them and it was decent. i mean there are the usual namecalling but mostly it was good and I made a few frends on the way. Fresh starts are awesome.

Well, my German teacher used to teach art at that school and well...exploding vases. Then he bought a metal detector to scan for bullets. Though I don't know if this really happened, but that school as a bad rep.



Makes me wonder how the got the bullets though...

Same. Our school had an arson problem. Some bunghole idiot decided to set fire to the school bathroom. Although I knew exactly who it was(I keep tabs on stuff like that, you never know when that bit of info might be useful), I refused to protest. Why? Because I'm not the fighting type. Don't get me wrong, I'm no pacifist but I strongly disagree on hurting another human being physically besides self defense because of my very pro-humanistic views.

But in any case, I always await the day that after I graduate high school, maybe, I can rub my money in their faces and laugh at their pathetic life. Hey, never said about getting my sweet revenge was against my views.

Agreed.


Did he not graduate?

Some of these stories are abhorrent. I was only bullied once, in 7th grade, for about 3 months. It was by a group of kids who I could've easily beaten the asses of, and one of them i did when I got blindingly pissed off one day (because of the bullying). Countering your bullying problem in any case starts with ways to get self respect. I know that some of you may think that your not up to the "task", whatever task you may think of to stop the bullying or help stop it, but you are, and for the ones that still hold yourself up high through it all, I'm glad. Whatever you do: DONT except it as a life style. You can change things, its your life, so grab hold of the wheel.