Can't say that I have. I had very few friends in school, was a nerd who knew all the answers in class, and a social outcast; but the bullies learned quite quickly that I'm a poor target since I could outwit them quite easily and am not fazed at all by attempts at harassment.

I used to outwit my bullies, but after I did that they usually just hit me
I did fight back, but like I said, skinny and lanky
Bullies always grow up at some point, it's only a matter of time before they [censored] off

I never had to fight back, never been in a fight in my entire school life. I guess they just had no interest in fighting me, since I'd just shrug off any attempts at bullying... probably bored them lol.

It was kinda reverse for me.

In elementary school there was this boy in my class that grew up to be the typical 'alpha male' type. Let's call him Tom. He was noisy and bossy, and bullied a few kids (not me, though). We were in the same class from 5th to 7th grade, and from 8th grade and up we both ended up at the same youth-school.

In 9th grade I got diagnosed with cancer and I had to leave school for months to get treatment and surgery. Eventually I got so strong that I could go back to school in between the treatments. One day all the 9th graders were going to the cinema to watch a documentary or something. I sat in the isle in the middle of the screening room in order to have some extra leg space and Tom sat directly behind me with his buddies.

When there was about ten minutes left of the movie I heard him say to his buddy "hey, did you know that that girl in front of us wears a wig?"
"LOL, why?" asked his buddy.
"Because she has cancer" Tom replied. "Let's pull her wig off when the lights come on!"

I lost all respect I had for him at that moment. I don't know how his friend reacted to Tom's funny little scheme, but in the end the wig stayed on my head all the time. Maybe his friend stopped him, or maybe Tom realized what a revolting little [censored] he was.

I kinda wanted him to play out his plan just so that everyone could see who he really was. A guy who thinks it is okay to bully a weak and emaciated cancer patient that limps around on a pair of crutches.

The joke's on you, Tom. The joke's on you.

Gee, he's nice. Its already wrong to bully, but pick on someone with cancer?

@Ayumifan(?)
People like that arn't worth your time, what a jerk

Yeah, I won't show him any respect no matter what he does now.
Once you lose my respect, you don't get it back.


He even got the nerve to approach me a couple of days later during lunch hour to ask if he could sit in my chair and try it out.*

"Dude, let me try your awesome chair!"

"Hah, like that's gonna happen." I just laughed at him and he left.


* I needed a special chair to keep my leg elevated in order to keep the blood flowing in it. It even had an electric motor to raise and lower the seat

That is just [censored] up.

I hope someone beat the crap out of him, someone will eventually, what a [censored] [censored].

Nope, I was that guy who every one seem's to get along with. Plus, my year group was largely laid back and even the different social groups got along with each other.

Plus I was on the rugby team, which made me about twice the size of most guys in my school.

This. That and I got in a fight with the meanest bastard in the year and didn't lose too badly.


Really though, why are children expected to tolerate this [censored]? I mean, if an advlt just walks up to another advlt and decides to punch him in the gut, he'll face swift retaliation, or at least a night in a cell. Why are children just expected to take what comes to them?

I was bullied but we settled it with a good old fashion schoolyard fight in which i won. He stopped bullying me after i kicked his ass and i was proud i did. He would also bully other kids in my grade so it felt like an accomplishment .

Can't say that I was, not to the extent you mention anyway. There was on guy that would say [censored] about me, and so I would do it to him. We were pretty much trying to bully each other at points, eventually we fought and it didn't really settle anything. Continued on for maybe another year then he moved.

I agree, I hated the way people always say crap like "tell a teacher" and how if you hit them back, you can be the one who gets in trouble, the education system is [censored].

One benefit of distance education (also known as correspondence school) is that bullying didn't really come up during my schooling :whistling:. But I do have one anecdote for you, via my mother (I have absolutely no memory of this, myself):

One day, when I was a little kid, I was at a play group thingy. One of the other kids pushed me. Oblivious to his intent, I simply pushed him back. Overall, it really didn't work out as he may have hoped :laugh:.


I see that as kind of speaking in their favour, actually. Sure, they may be nasty little sods, but showing humanity when they find out someone has a potentially fatal disease means that they're not complete arseholes. They may be blind to the suffering they inflict, but that doesn't mean nothing will get through to them.


Shortly after joining these forums, apparently (see the various height-related threads for data).

I think for the most parts advlts accept that children will be cruel, as they know no better. Also, I think there is the consensus that kids who get bullied somehow "have it coming to them", because they are showing weakness by not fighting back (or being the one starting the fights; trust me, I know parents like that), or that it's their fault because they aren't trying hard enough to fit in. Also, I've heard it be called "character building". I don't know if I'd go that far, but quite a few comedians say they learnt to be funny so as to distract and deflect the bullies.

Me. Always the tiniest, always the monkey. Being in an all-girls school was not helping either. The weird small one. And then puberty hit and within a year and a half, I was dwarfing the others in several ways. Genes, I like you. ^_^
Anyway, I endured before that. At one point my Da just told me to stop bothering what mean things others say, when you clearly know that all that just doesn't apply to you. Did help. Fighting female mobbing is much, much worse than just male bullies, I figure.

In elementary there were some kids that had a thing called the "Grinder" where they would throw you up against the fence repeatedly. Didn't really hurt, but it was still bullying. Also got pantsed by the same guys in front of a group of girls. Then my dad told me that you should immediately punch people in the nose when they mess with you (Makes their eyes water up and it's hard to see) so after that they left me alone. Once in high school there were two Hispanic guys who messed with me, throwing snowballs at me while I walked to art class. When we got there I got in the bigger one's face and asked if he wanted to have a problem (They were separated, guess they only do something when there in a group) and it never happened again. You just gotta get tough with bullies, even if you get your head stomped, they'll respect you the more for having spine.

I was never really bullied, I always managed to get on fairly well with just about everybody. Never even been in a fight.

Y'know, if I had a child who was being bullied, I think I would probably sit them down and give them a talk about assault and self defence. That is, what constitutes the former, and the limits of the latter (trying to keep it simple, and making sure they understood it properly, of course). Instructing tell them to tell a teacher or/and me if anything came up.

Telling kids to not defend themselves (or anything likely to be interpreted that way) is a stupid idea, mostly because it will seem like a stupid idea to them. Telling them, "Do only what you need to do to get out of it, and NEVER kick 'em while they're down" might get a little more ear-time, though.

'Course, having a father who is big and rides motorcycles would probably help these hypothetical children, too .

EDIT: By the way, I'm one of the least violent people you could meet :hehe:. And I really should go to bed now...

Despite being a scrawny person, so scrawny that you can see my tendons and bones, with braces, my haircut by my mother, skin that looks either like red scales (due to severe eczema) or paper white as well as being terrible at sport and art but loved mathematics and science, I spat when I spoke, wore clothes that were too big for me that had a faded colour (I did have new ones but I prefer ones that are too big), I was short and had in-proportionate hands and feet as they were bigger than everyone I knew who was a foot taller than me, I was never bullied.

Edit: extension
I was in a brass band playing an instrument about 2/3 of my size, played FF games even though everybody else hated them (they hadn't even played them), I got on well with all the teachers (except art) and wore school uniform on a non-school uniform day.

Being smarter than everyone else was an advantage in my school as everyone respected you and would try to improve to impress you. I love being smarter than everyone else.

lucky you knight. I was short, broad shouldered, and was picked on. and as i said before, violence solved it :thumbsup: I would tell the teachers and they never did anything and i didnt tell my parents.

I was never really bullied, maybe a few times but that is it. As someone said, I was more shunned than anything. For the cool people I was a geek/dork/nerd/loser. For the geeks/nerds, I wasn't accepted because I was too stupid/not smart enough. Basically I wasn't accepted by anyone. I coudln't win for loosing. I wasn't accpeted by anyone and I was alone.

That is good you have friends, lucky you. I just want to know, how come the school lets this go on? I thought most schools now are suppose to have a ZERO Bullying Tolerance Policy now. Next time you locker gets messed up, I would go to the school authorities, and if they will not do anything about it, I would go to the News, and get them to come over. It's only a matter of time another school shooting is going to happen because espically in todays society, kids will snap and not take it anymore.

Schools are suppose to stop this. If they will not do anything about it, I would go straight to CNN and tell them about your story.

I used to be bullied even though I was bigger than most people, simply because I was quiet, didn't have friends, and I was smart. When I finally had enough, I just beat them up. Violence is usually never the answer, but in the case of bullying, there's not much in the way of peaceful measures that can be exercised.

I was pretty cool with most of the people in my school. There were those who would pick a fight or make comments from time to time, but I was always able to hold my own, if you will. Always stood my ground, never really escalated into fights. Guess my high school experience was tragic than others.

Eh, I'm not sure violence is always the answer.

I mean you can try and fight back, but honestly that is probably exactly what they want: an excuse to beat you up. If you manage to beat them into submission, great; but I think the passive solution works and without having to get your hands dirty.

May not work if they're extremely violent from the get go, I guess it really depends on what school you go to. I went to a public school, but a pretty big district (like 500+ people in each grade) so maybe the zero-tolerance rules actually knock some sense into people.