I completely disagree. If you're just going to bend over and take it, you might as well write 'Target' on your forehead.

Take a stand, even if it means getting your ass handed to you. There's no reason to go out without your pride. If you're not going to stick up for yourself, nobody else is going to stick up for you either.

I was mentally bullied from 1st grade to my sophomore year in high school. For some unknown reason (people have even asked him why and he never gave them a straight answer) this one guy started picking on me and he ended up being the most popular guy in school, so I was the person that everyone made fun of. I finally told him to go [censored] off or else I'd beat his [censored]. He stopped after that. All bark no bite!

Lol where I went to school people were assaulting teachers, setting fire to things and generally causing serious injury all round. One guy had his forehead split by someone throwing a CD at him with force, and that was just mucking around when the teacher left the room for a minute A guy from the school down the road only has one thumb now. :/ There is no way I would have picked a fight with a bully with a reputation.

(I should add, both schools have since been shut down and there's a new "voyager" school in place now. no idea if it's any better in there).

Pride? Dignity is scarce in the education system. The smart kids keep their heads down and do well. Garauntee that anyone who causes [censored] is messed up and only cares to mess with you. So there is no " honor" in keeping your nose down, but at least it isn't broken.

It's as bad as bullying itself to whap someone upside the head when their back is turned. It is cowardly. It's beneath you. It also counts as an act of aggression by you in the bully's favor. Bullying needs to be dealt with when the offense occurs. It goes from assualt to self defense.
Bullies chose vicitims who are insecure, who don't like conflict, who won't face them, and will take it. Telling parents and teachers only works if you plan to charge said bully publicly with assault. The threat of law enforcement coming in will put things in motion with administrative staff.
Otherwise, it's ass-kicking time.

Yes, I was bullied...A LOT. For being smart, nerdy, pimply, overweight and, um... being extremely well-endowed in the chest department... :unsure:

Unfortunately for all the guys who teased me, I went vegan, lost all the weight (kept meat in the right places though, muahaha! ) and the acne, started wearing contacts and voila - they suddenly act smitten in my company and act as though nothing ever happened.

I never forget though, it was traumatizing for me and I still struggle with low confidence and insecurities regardless of how many times someone calls me beautiful... the attention is all pretty new to me still and it doesn't sink in because I feel like I can't trust anyone anymore so I perceive most comments as masked criticism, just because its so ingrained in me to be insulted. :confused: Men don't really tease me at all anymore, but many women still do since I am, er, still very voluptuous and not stick thin like they are... I'm starting to learn not to take it so personally though.

Its a good thing in a way though... I was an ugly duckling and wasn't considered "hot" until a year or two ago, so I developed a nice and unique personality, shy and introverted, intelligent and spiritual... my sisters grew up beautiful and showered with attention and it shows - they are nothing like me.

The best thing is - I am also blind when it comes to romance now. I know what its like to be ostracized because of how you look and I've learned from that. My family laughs at me because I am with the biggest nerd/geek ever and they think I should be with some sort of prince charming... BLECK not my type - the nerdier the better :drool: :drool: :drool: If I can't watch Star Trek or play D&D with you then I'm not interested. :shrug:

Unfortunately for me, I was way ahead of my Middle schooler counterparts and they didn't quite understand why I had long hair. So what do you do when you don't understand something someone does? Insult it of course!

So for years I've been getting bullied relentlessly for my long hair. I still haven't gotten it cut this whole time, why? Because I like it.

and no idiot's gonna tell me how my hair should look

I grew up in the city, going to inner-city schools. Lived in the ghetto. I've seen it all. If you all have no problem with not being respected, that's fine. But those of you who have an issue with being a second class citizen need to stand up against the tyranny. Nobody is going to do it for you.

Win or lose, it doesn't matter. But people will know that you're no punk, or at least you're a punk with limits.

Meh; I never really experienced the generic kind of Hollywood-Highschool bullying (i.e., the getting shoved in the hallway and having people demand my lunch money crap), but as far as insult fights, railing on people, and making them feel small and/ or angry, I've probably dished out close to the amount that I've taken.

I'm a good [censored]. A really good one. I'm proficient at making fun of people way better than they can make fun of me, and I've pissed people off to the point of wanting a piece of me before, however, I've always avoided real fights. Yeah, I've been made-fun-of pretty bad, emotional hurt, depression, ect all present at one point or another, but I'm also big on the giving end of the spectrum.

I honestly can't imagine ever bullying anyone - I don't know how someone could have it in them to be that cruel. Its absolutely disturbing to me, because I can't imagine treating someone like a sack of sh**. I know from experience it has devastated my functioning ability in a lot of ways, and I have several personality disorders as a result. It is NOT something to be taken lightly but at the same time I wouldn't know how to deal with the pricks responsible for it. To think a lot of the people involved in bullying are considered "popular" by the masses, as well... it just doesn't seem right.

Round here the sensible ones just kept their heads down and got an education - the respect came later on when you had a decent job/life and the former bullies either realised how stupid they had been or were languishing in prison, or living another unfulfilling life The kind of "respect" that is valued at that age means nothing when you want to do well in life. No one respects schoolyard fights when you're an advlt (unless they continue to be a grown-up bully, which is kind of sad).

I was targeted a few times, but I wasn't constantly bullied.

You don't need to be strong to be an actor.

And then one day someone poor kids snaps, takes a gun to school and goes on a shooting spree, and then people wonder why. "He was such a good kid" people will say. Of course he was a good kid, problem is, the school, and society sweeps it under the rug and can't be bothered to do anything about it.

Agian, bullying is Assault. Maybe it is different states side, but our schools have a Zero tollerance for Bullying. I am shocked to here that the school will do nothing about it and sweep it under the rug. This is why you need to get the news involved. CNN anyone who will listen. This is a tragedy waiting to happen again. Nobody will help the poor kid but people will easily put in thier 2 cents when he snaps and has a mental breakdown, and something happens then.

I just can't comprehend that the school will do nothing.

I've been with the same group of kids for eight, nine years now, so bullying isn't really a problem for me. Even though I would be the perfect target. I guess you can't be in close proximity for almost a decade and not end up tolerating, if not liking each-other. And the school I go to is pretty nice all-around, and even though I'm tall, extremely lanky, pale, socially awkward, and nerdy, a lot of people seem to like me. Pretty much everyone I know at school I'm on friendly enough terms to have a conversation with. (Convincing one of the most popular kids in the school to play tabletop RPGs with me and my ultra-nerd group is mt crowning achievement. He's still playing them with us, and that was a bit more than a year ago.) I guess I'm just lucky.

They don't bug me or anything. But Im actually bigger then most kids. Im like 6'0 or 5'11 200lbs lol. I also hang around with my friends. Best advice for dealing with a bully. They're used to being tough right? So why not be tough to them. They should back of. If not, well then I hope you've been taking MMA or the toilets your friend!

I have never really been bullied.

I have had my experience with bullying I went to teachers they really didn't do anything about it or didn't believe me because it was usually the popular people the bullies and the outcast "me" being bullied, so if you go to a teacher or principle one of two things would happen 1. They wouldn't believe you because you are the outcast that always wears black or 2. They would say maybe you provoked it. Idk this is what happened to me. I wish I could have gone to your school maybe I wouldn't have dropped out. But unfortunately some schools only care about popularity pfft I have had a teacher tell me I don't care if you fail I still get paid lol

sorry about the double post my computer is messing up on me :brokencomputer:

Back in middle school, I got bullied occasionally but survived it quite all right. The thing I hated the most was how some kids who got bullied would turn around and become bullies themselves if they got the chance.

Edit: Which makes me glad that I saw that as a problem and never became a bully myself.

Well during elementary school I was never picked on. I was actually one of the popular kids. But as soon as middle school started that all changed. Only one of my friends stuck around and the rest of my so called "friends" began to pick on me for being overweight. I would always get picked on in the locker room when we would dress out for PE. I hated going to Gym class..

I find it kind of funny though, as the years passed I slowly got taller and taller, and eventually I get to what I am now: 6'3, 300 lbs, and none of them say a word to me most of the time. I get the occasional "nerd" or "geek" insult thrown at me, but I don't really see it as an insult anymore. I take pride in being a geek and I'm really trying to eat a little less every day. I'm down to 3 meals and a snack per day. Hopefully I can cut the snack soon.

A couple of times I recall I was bullied. In primary school some of my class mate decided to bully me because I'd just started wearing glasses and was also a member of the school chess team. However that was stopped when the teacher humiliated the 5 or so who were doing the bullying in front of the whole class. To this day I have no idea who told the Teacher as I know I didn't and I didn't tell my parents either so that leaves either of my two best friends at the time.

Then in high school I was bullied by a group of around 10 lads for about a month before I told my dad about it. He went into the school on the next monday and spoke to the year head who pulled me into his office and asked me who was doing the bullying. I told him and they were all put in detention. They also didn't try anything with me again. That may have been down to them finding out I was a purple belt in Karate but I have no idea who told them about that. They did however become fairly friendly with me afterwards.

I never got that myself.

As for me, I was ostracized and bullied for about eight years of my life for reasons varying from people finding me weird because of my interests and habits to them just not liking the sound of my voice or the way I spoke. I also had to deal with my evil music teacher and my own chronic foot-in-mouth syndrome concerning my interactions with others. I still have numerous issues from that time of my life.

I am so sorry to hear that. I am over 40 now, we didn't have anit bullying laws back then. I know what you mean, so sorry to hear. My kids are in school now, and I have spoken to the principle and they take it very serious. Problem is this kid does it off school property and the school can't do nothing about it.

Yeah it's pretty sad teachers would say something like that, they give most teachers a bad name. People wonder why, kids snap and go on a shooting spree in schools. Nobody wants to do anything about it, and when it's too late, they still place the blame onto others.

This is why I say contact CNN. Tell them your story. Maybe enough attention comes, then the schools will do something because then they get embaressed. I think it's about time CNN does a story, on why kids snap and show America that there can be another school shooting because of bullying. I think so many stories would come out then.

The entire district is a great big screw up, and it's not the school's fault, it's the district's. People get bullied for absolutely nothing and when you're not bullying them, merely defending them...the idiots at the top think apparently protecting yourself is fighting. Ah...that clears up so many things...especially why the Federal government would pass A SELF DEFENSE LAW.

I know this sounds like a rant but it's true! The bullies get away free about 70-80% of the time while the people who are actually doing something about it get punished for...doing something about it. Personally, I'm untouchable since the last time a bully touched me, I got him expelled after doing some negotiations with the school principle and the school board. It was game set and match

But after two suspensions, one legitimate and another one just the board having a stick up their butts the size of East Texas...it bores me to no end how terrible my school district is at stopping bullying. What makes it even more ironic is that the district has the audacity to actually put ANTI-BULLYING CAMPAIGNS. Just no...if I become rich or successful(moving to high school soon with above average grades), I'm going to bash on this district until the end of my life.