Puzzle Quest 2 is a good suggestion... one of those games that's both sort of mindlessly entertaining and yet sort of svcks in/pulls you along.

If you have a PC, I recommend Syberia 1 and 2; maybe she would like adventure games that don't involve combat.

It doesn't look amazing, but for a 13-year-old game I think it's held up rather well. It's also for someone that plays DS most of the time, so the graphics shouldn't be too much of a concern. If he gets the GameCube version, which runs at twice the resolution of the original, then I imagine it'd be fine.

My girlfriend is far from a gamer, but we've had good times on the Wii. I suggest the new donkey Kong country, you can both play together on that one and its relatively easy yet fun, the new super Mario which is also coop and fun/easy, and another game my girlfriend thinks is fun which I actually really like is epic mickey. It's single player, so she can play by herself, and its got some small puzzles and a pretty good story so far. Plus if she's a Disney fan like a lot of girls are shell connect with it.

Hope that helps.

Maybe rpg′s aren′t just what she prefers... I would recommend "limbo" or "braid" for the 360

My ex' was never a gamer, but she took to playing Fable once or twice. That might be worth a try

Thirded for Puzzle Quest, and I'd also recommend Torchlight.

Fallout: New Vegas, convince her to join Legion. :laugh:

But really, if she's not anti violence them Red Faction Guerilla, [Prototype] or Left 4 Dead might get her into gaming some more.
Lost of girls seem to love Left 4 Dead.
Me and my friends former girlfriend used to play Left 4 Dead on co-op a lot, great fun.

they make zelda games for the ds, and i liked the ones on the gameboy so theres always that, (you said she liked hand held games) What about fable? the second one is pretty damn fun, and you can play two player which is always fun

My wife is a casual gamer, but I was able to get her to create a character in "Fallout 3" and "Oblivion". Maybe your wife would find a sandbox RPG interesting?

http://www.fogu.com/hm/animal_parade/ is a nice relaxed game, but more complex than casual games. May be a good stepping stone.

Thanks for all the awesome suggestions. So far I think I might try to find Puzzle Quest, sounds like it would be perfect for her. Also, Ocarina of Time: I have the Master Quest version for gamecube, so thankfully the graphics are a bit better then the N64.

If she likes Strategy, I suggest Age of Empires 2 or Age of Mythology, they are what really got me into gaming.

EDIT* Or the Sims 3, my sister and mother seem to play that alot

Same here.

If you want to get a handheld Zelda, I'd recommend Spirit Tracks. I'd also recommend Pokemon Black and White.