This one's easy.

Alai, what kind of guy do you want to meet?

Base prerequisites:
- similar values to my own (you know, religious stuff, being honest and decent and nice, that sort of thing - not a devil-worshiping hedonistic back-stabbing sleazy scumball)
- cerebral (i.e. has a brain attached, preferably attaining at least a university undergraduate degree)
- doesn't engage in risky behavior (no smoking, no drinking to get drunk, no recreational drugs, no tattoos, no other behavior that intentionally risks one's health)
- engages in healthy self-care habits (eating habits, sleep schedule, that sort of thing)
- good/effective communication habits (by this, I mean being in touch with one's own thought processes, not being reactionary toward outside events and feelings, etc. Stuff like DBT and CBT skills)
- can tolerate and accept my medical problems

I have other nitpicks, but the above prerequisites are just my base standards for healthy physical and spiritual well-being that are important, to me, to maintain a healthy relationship (which I believe includes a healthy life-style) and fostering trust and mutual respect.

You want someone who is simultaneously a hippy, abstainer and incredibly clean?

Honestly, the single most important thing for me in a woman is someone who can step back, look at the bigger picture and hold an intelligent conversation. I tend to be a bit of an introspective person, the kind who follows the news, ponders how one can better oneself, and spends serious time considering which way to vote when the mail in ballot comes. I tire very quickly of those people who are so caught up in the here-and-now 24/7 and never seem to sit back and examine themselves.

Aside from that, I'm not very choosy. Physically, I can find most anyone attractive assuming there are no extremes (super heavy/thin, etc). I also refuse to go out with someone who smokes. blech. However I do tend to find shorter girls (like 4'10" to 5'6") attractive, and a nice butt is always a plus. ^^

I have T1 and T2 but don't feel like watching them right now. And besides, that wasn't the kind of action I meant, but probably the only kind I'll see. Hmmm, maybe I will go watch it after all... <_<

in my sociology class we're discussing Gender in the past and modern day society

one of the things was to write a list on the board of all things ,men want, need and are supposed to be like according to our society today.

the first three on that list:

six
food
water

I'm not kidding, a student actually went up there when he was called on and put those first three things. My friend then went up there and stated that it was too vague so he worked it down to:

six
bacon
beer

so there you go darling, that's what men want, really quite simple

I knew what you meant, Phlooph. I just didn't want to tempt myself to get too detailed on such action. That whole "13+ forum" thing. :/
Tony Jaa is some sick martial arts, though. I highly recommend all the Ong Bak movies and The Protector.



I won't ask why such a detailed exception. XD

Well, your base is a touch more than just looking for boyfriend pro tempore. You seem like I don't need to recommend avoiding the typical bars, coffee shops, and concerts. I like using bookstores I go to for books anyway; I get the books I want, anyone I find here is less likely to say "I'd rather wait for the movie", AND you can connect on a second layer by paying attention to the books he or she has and is looking at. I'll address this from the start, topics like religion, politics, marriage, and children are not important until you expect a long-term relationship with that person. Of course, you want to match up and agree on everything you can, but bite your tongue and talk about something else until you're at least comfortable with each other.

A good way to screen for those risky behaviors, hygiene habits, and somewhat the cerebral type, is to see how methodical a guy acts. He does things the way he does them for a reason, and he doesn't ignore that. Don't take it personal if he doesn't look at you while he talks to you if he's doing something and making sure he does it "correctly". I know these types very well. All day, he's keeping track of things the average Joe just does and goes about their day.

As for your medical problems (another pre-emptive: those aren't any of my concern), it does depend on what's going on. Ultimately, if you find the guy who follows the same religion, votes for the same people, loves your marriage ideas, and also wants the two boys and a girl... He won't care what you have. The truth is, you gotta cherish your flaws, because the man who falls in love with you absolutely will. Think about it from your side. Say this guy lost a finger in some accident when he was a kid. Kinda weird at first, you probably don't want to hold that hand when you walk together. If you fell in love with this guy, you wouldn't mind it, would you? If that were the hand you reached out and held, that finger you don't feel tells you that you're holding the hand of the man you love. Flaws mean nothing. I'd say that the only thing your medical problems count for are just a small test of how important you are to the guy you're with; Then, later down the line, income for the sake of any relevant medical bills. A tiny relationship test and money... Neither of these mean anything to the heart.

So, don't go places for guys, look around at the places you already go to for you. Don't go boyfriend hunting at work or school (obligatory locations), because you'll both be dating through the obligatory mentality. No good. The cliche' of be yourself, don't play games. It's easy enough to ask how he feels about smoking, drinking, fighting, tattoos, etc. . And make sure you pay attention to anything you find OCD or anol retentive. Not that guys who act normal aren't cerebral, but the OCD-ness is a good indicator that he thinks A LOT.

If you want me to go deeper, shoot me a PM. I'm scary good with psychology.

I've decided all my other conditions can be waived if I can get someone like http://th05.deviantart.net/fs71/PRE/f/2010/165/3/2/Almalexia_cosplay6_by_AnhenRose.jpg.

That's beautiful.

I understand that everyone has their preferences, but in university the chance of finding someone that doesn't drink in excess or does drugs is really, really low, even lower if you don't want them to do anything that could harm themselves, were young and stupid! I don't know what it's like to look for a nice, genuine guy (I'm straight and a guy) but I'm sure using first impressions for that can't be too tough, it's what I do for girls. Don't be afraid to make the first move on a guy or strike up a conversation, it's a rare event that the girl actually shows full on interest (not that subtle hint stuff) and shyer, nice guys will probably appreciate that.

But Alamenxia is bat [censored] craaazaaaay! Look at Her Hands, a bunch of them went completely nuts too. Plus, she's also about 4000ish years older than anyone here.

Redheads. <3

The nails are a tad intimidating, but the rest is A+.






You make a modest man blush, Verlox.
What can I say? I'm 700 times the poet Lord Byron ever was.

I didn't say I wanted Almalexia, I just want a girl who's willing to dress like her.


Hey, I guess I've found my girl with talons, eh Veeno? :happy:

A valid point! I still like the same religious beliefs however. We all have different tastes!

I wish I was the person in my avatar. Then I could party all the time. ;_;

You don't wanna know the PG-13 demands they made before "shoe on head".

Vagrants, the lot of them!

I can't really say much that someone else in the thread hasn't said. Personally, I like my girls to be around 5'7-5'9, I like them to be sanitary (having the hair clean looking is always nice in my book, straightened usually, don't like curly hair much), I absolutely can't stand bad teeth, a good sense of fashion, and average size (not skinny and not large). And personality is just complex, I can't point out what I really like and dislike, either you have a good personality or you don't. But there are a few things: I hate when girls giggle at EVERYTHING, and when they try to be stupid because they think it's cute or something.

Oh, and big boobs and a large rear-end is always a plus.

Don't wear too much makeup or perfume.

And don't throw yourself at people, but don't play hard-to-get either.

(All this together is my ideal woman, rarely would I get all these traits in one person.)

I don't really see what religion has to do with real-world ideas (referring to your link).

However, I would like to have my significant other have the same beliefs as me. It would simply be hard to have a relationship with someone with a different religion (because many of them actually contradict each other).

Like living with a fan of your rival sports team for your whole life. It just ain't gonna happen. (Hehe... seriously, if I ever have to live with a Bama fan a break up is going to happen soon >_> )

I believe the socially acceptable term is "ghetto booty".

Who is the guy in your avatar?

Andrew W.K.

Nathan Explosion?

Oh, I know!

A redhead that likes to babysit for no pay, and like getting random weddings!

>implyingsomething<

People, in general, aren't supposed to like random weddings? I'm a huge advocate of flash mobs.

Wedding proposals out of the sky, like if I pulled out part of my thigh.