I was mainly focusing on "just act normally". I abhor that word.


I hope you don't think I believe in some manner of destiny. No one has any "predefined template". There are society's pressures and role fulfillment, but I absolutely don't think anyone is supposed to act any particular way. I just don't support someone acting like they're different than what they are, for anyone. Especially when it comes to relationships, since that just leaves the other person falling for someone you aren't.

I'd have to have not lived a life to think people don't change.

And casual sixism is fun.

What can change the nature of a man?

New glasses, new haircut, better posture, and a better attitude when talking to women.

I barely manage financially and I've had countless girlfriends. And most offered to buy for me.

I guess I just have the touch.

This thread so far has me laughing.

I know what I want. I want to be paid the same for the same job.
I want the toilet seat, including the lid, down. We all make hormones, so don't blame communication issues or difference of opinion on menses. I am not the sandwich maker, butt of male insecurity jokes, your mother, the laundress, the maid, or the cleaning lady. I work too. I have no problem cooking, cleaning, or taking out the trash, I did it on my own for years. But I won't do it alone, everyone needs to pitch in, regardless of genetalia. I dislike stereotypes. Not all women are golddigging demon [censored]es from hell.
I made my own money, so I didn't need the boyfriends. In fact, I was better with money than most boyfriends, and still am.

As far as attractiveness, quiet confidence, patience, kindness, and a good sense of humor to offset my rather morbid, warped sense of humor.

I made that thread. It was "what men want", because, as a heterosixual woman, I'm not much interested in what women want, and this is a forum populated largely by men, so I thought it would be an interesting place to pose the question. It was fun to read too (from what I kept up with anyway)!

As for me, I think the main things are a mutual sense of respect, trust, responsibility etc.. A relationship should be equal in all aspects for me. A sense of humour is great too (on a side note, I'm trying an online dating site and a guy in a wheelchair listed "sitting down" in his interests. Made me laugh so I had to message him - who knows what will happen? ).
For me, I don't like men who are too "touchy feely" or overly flirty/affectionate - I like my personal space, at least until we're dating. I don't have a physical "type", although if I'm honest, I assume that anyone who looks like they spend their life at the gym won't be my type of guy (and I'm sure they think something similar when they see me!). A bit of ambition is very attractive too. Doesn't matter if he's not quite there yet, but having dreams and drive definitely counts for something in my book.

And I'm a svcker for musicians. It's a cliché, but it works for me.

Isn't that a little selfish? What YOU want? Think about someone else. Heh heh...

What do people want?

Crap, we have to think about the animals as well. <_<

What living organisms want?

Shoot, now the inanimate objects feel left out.

A woman. A man. Surviving something that undoubtedly should have killed you. Or an honest look in the mirror. For me, I just used my ego the right way and became who I wanted to be. I changed for me, and my life can only be amazing now that I'm living it as this hero I always wished I could be like when I was younger.

I don't think it takes all that you listed to change the nature of a man. Each one can, depending on how that man perceives the event or item.



Sounds fair to me. I know there's that whole "every man wants to marry a woman like his mother" thing, but a wife isn't a baby-sitter for her husband. I feel bad for a guy who expects that. Also, try and guess how many guys you'll attract just from those words alone. Don't bother trying to count on your hands.

Well, anyway...

I want someone to love me. I want someone to look at my faults and my self-loathing and still tell me they think I am awesome and that I'm the best. I want to share my life with someone I love and who loves me and be as close to that person as any two human beings can be. I do not care about money or success. If I really loved someone and they loved me, I'd live on the streets with them if we had to. I want to bring joy to that person's life and I want to satisfy them.

I want someone who is realistic and does not think life is a big melodramatic movie and is down-to-earth. I want someone who shares my interests and beliefs and any interests/beliefs of mine they don't share, they tolerate and/or approve of, and I want to share their interests and beliefs, and approve of any of theirs I don't share. I want someone who will be honest with me and earn my trust, and someone I can tell everything about myself to. I want someone who will always be there for me; someone who will be satisfied with me.

I want someone to love me, and I want someone to love.

Did you even read it? Instead of having a shaved head I grew it out and took care of it, bought new glasses that fit me well, improved my posture and acted like myself, as in being myself but not being afraid to show it. Basically I cleaned myself up and stopped acting shy. If I had said I stopped doing this and that or that I started to rpetend to like something then thats reason to worry.

Edit: My bad I read your other posts and I should have picked a better word then "normally", but that I just meant I acted like myself. I guess overcoming depression + social anxiety without medication helped quite a bit too

Just use Alchem...

OOO wrong thread...

This is what your asking: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J7cqbMCM0vA

Well, you said that you changed your hair, got new glasses, "new posture" ( think), and started to act normal. I couldn't have inferred what you said in above quote. Though I do understand much better now.

That's good to hear. Sounds like part of what I did ages ago. It feels like a brand new life when you just be who you are and everything gets better, doesn't it? I say keep it up, dude. Good on ya.

Nope, some of them cook and clean and make sammiches.
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ETO3-MxMe2Q

I have yet to be convinced of this, and yes, I have dated many women before. It usually ends with their peanut-sized attention span running out and then spreading random rumours about 2 hours after a breakup for absolutely no reason.

Both women and men feed off of attention, plain and simple. I've just seen women do this far more times.

It's the best feeling I've ever experienced, glad to hear you got that great feeling too! If you look at most people that are truly happy, they've gone through a lot so I'm not embarrassed, I just see it as a stage in life.

My brother!! :celebration:

I find it mostly takes a combination of attitude and life experiences. When you get the right mixture, you get someone who decides to start anew, and become themself. Then, when we're completely honest with ourselves and everything around us, we truly are untouchable.

Which easily leads back to the topic of the thread. I find that people in general sense it, and women who do also just gravitate towards it and respond to... well, I suppose it could be an aura. I guess it isn't so much something women WANT, but I haven't gotten any complaints.

:o You read my mind, I have literally been saying those exact words to other people! It does seem to make people feel comfortable, like they can tell that you kind of understand this crazy world and they gravitate towards you.

Well gee darlin I'm glad to see I'm good for something

I want:
Someone sweet and caring, someone who lets me be the bouncy loud all over the place person I am, who doesn't mind my obsessions with stuffed animals and cutesy things or that I don't always remember to use English. They have to be open to being dragged about Renaissance events (in costume of course). Someone who has their own passions but wants to share them with me sometimes and is willing to share in mine . They should be responsible enough to man up to life. I don't expect them to take care of me, I'm a big girl and I'm going to college for my own career, BUT I'd like them to WANT to be able to, I have to know I can depend on them when things go array, but also that they'll be there to celebrate the good times with as well ^.^ They have to be open to communication, full honesty....its not always pretty but its a good thing in the long run. It doesn't really matter what they look like, so long as when they hold me, I feel like theres no better place to be. and of course, they have to respect me as a person.

Having all that, I guess I dun mind going n getting that sammich....so long as I continue to feel appreciated for it ;P

I'm over here!

Wow, nice :spotted owl:

I hope you find what your looking for. I'll be honest, when I talk to a girl about what she sees in a man she actually says "Well, he has to be hot." What the heck does that tell you about anything? So if he was the "hottest" guy on the planet you would date him even if he was a total tool? I really can't see it. Girls need a more realistic view, like this one. Physical attractiveness is one thing, it being the only first thing you look for is another.

Darlin, your sammiches are very much appreciated

It's like going back to high skool, where the girls were always nice to the genius in the class because he just understood it all. They knew he was a sweet guy and would help them out if they asked. Yep, that's you and me, brother. We just understand life.



That doesn't sound like too hard of a guy to find. I think you just need someone on the edge of the radar. Any typical guy, or anyone who doesn't like what they aren't used to... Well, you said yourself that you're a big girl, you know how to sniff them out by now. I was gonna say that the hardest part is probably the Renaissance thing, but when I think about most guys... Perfect honesty is way too hard to come by. Most guys would probably rather dress up (if they hated it) than tell a truth that gets them in trouble. I wish you the best of luck, hun.

I am extremely curious, though; what language(s) do you speak when you forget to use English?

Your blooooood!

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