ok, anyone knwo where i can find info on what lvl certain npcs/mobs start carrying or upgrading their weapon/armor at?

Did you try the G.E.C.K. ?

that i did not, i have yet to be able to get it up and running =[ ive given up on it =[

Why doesn't it work? Like is there an error message?

i loaded it up wrong back when i first started not knowing anything about how to work the GECK or even what it was used for.........after a case of beers and countless error messages i chaulk it up as a sign im not not supposed to mess with powers beyond my understanding and never looked back....

You probably have the wrong version. on my old one, i cant load any ESMs. Make 100% sure its the right version, I guarantee that is your problem.