Okay, I've been trying to keep things bottled up this whole thread but I don't know how long I can pull it off... *takes a deep breath* Here we go, and I hope things keep relatively civil
Civility isn't something you need to concern yourself with when discussing anything with me. I don't become angered by people having different opinions or perspectives than I do. And as I said, I do respect your opinion.
You simply can't equate the two kinds of objectification like that, because, when men are objectified, it's relatively easy for them to leave that behind if they wish and find places and situations where they aren't... women often don't have that luxury - it is far, far too common that objectification is all that women get in a work at all.
Well, I both agree and disagree. In degree, frequency, and severity, they are not equitable at all, you're absolutely correct. Especially in the work place, because - unfortunately - things are still far from equal there. But I'm talking about in a fictional settings. Objectification of men - often in ways that blatantly cater to women -
does happen, and we don't like it any more than you do. (Especially if we
aren't the ripped, Conan-esque guys we see you often drooling over - which many of you do.) I don't agree that it's easier for men than women to escape from
that. Every movie or videogame I've ever seen practically portrays men this way. If you do see a shirtless guy that isn't in shape, it's generally for comedy purposes (just like women on the larger side are often used to comedy effect, sadly.) This literally doesn't even occur to most women I discuss this with. They're like, "Oh, I never even thought of it that way." But at the same time, I have no problem with women finding men attractive or objectifying them
to a degree, because that's normal human thought and behavior (again,
to a degree.) People are attracted to who and what they're attracted to.
So as I said, I both agree and disagree.
Video gaming is one area where that is particularly the case, it seems.
This, again, is a fictional setting, and this is where it isn't as easy as you think it is for men to escape from objectification. Men as just as objectified in videogames as women are in my opinion. In fact, so far at least, Skyrim is proving that point. Musclebound cavemen in loincloths.
Until then, I'm going to push for things where women can be shown as normal people doing things normally (like wearing armour that actually works as armour), and while I'm not sure Skyrim will turn out that way I do still hold some hope for that.
Which is a perfectly admirable position to take. But while you're at it, I humbly suggest you also push for men to come in more shapes and sizes than they do currently.
And as for that last bit... you might want to be careful about blaming them for being wary of men noticing that sort of thing, since often for them letting men run too freely results in them being villified even if they did nothing at all. Sometimes this might result in slight overreaction (though it might be less of one than you realise), but that's because the consequences can be just that dire for them if they don't stand up to it...
I don't blame them for being wary, and certainly not for standing up to it. And for the record, I have never ogled a woman, or even pvssyd one up believe it or not. I'm just saying that women do what it is they're standing up to all the time, too. Which they do. It's either wrong all the time, or it's acceptable. Otherwise it is just what I said; a double standard.
In my opinion, the ideal solution would be to take nuance, context, and intent into consideration rather than summarily judging either six for what is in most cases normal human behavior. (I'm not talking about blatant sixism or harassment, which is never acceptable imo.)