Ive found that these forums have got a lot better recently, not that they were bad to begin with. A lot of the people who seemed to only post blind hate don't seem to be posting nearly as much or at all anymore.
Ive also become a lot more chilled out as time has gone on. I used to find that some of the stuff here made me a little mad, and I would respond with equally as salty things which wasn't really helping anyone. Maybe its part of aging, but I find I take everything in life a lot less seriously than I did however many years ago.
Ive seen people say some really awful things about Bethesda here, and OP was really nothing like that. The word "proper" is what I think set a lot of people off. We're all a bit jaded from people who used to post that their opinions on how Fallout 3 was Sauron and Satan made manifest is undeniable truth, and I think people kinda jumped on that without really thinking. Hell I probably would have done it too a couple of years ago when I took things a lot more srs bzns than I do now.
The thing about gaming though is that with Kickstarter and Steam we have a environment where every type of game can be funded and distributed to make a profit. I did actually lurk the 2K forums for a little bit which others have talked about here and I noticed a few things that they talked about, but what I also noticed was that people who may have shared my tastes with not liking the new xcom very much never really talked about Xenonauts, which is really the best translation of the original to modern game complete with new content that I can think of. I think a lot of people are more wanting a particular company to make a game for them, and not so much trawling the internet for games that already exist that fit the gameplay bill. That applies for fans of original Fallout, which I'm not a fan of, and original X-com, which I am a huge fan of, just about equally in my eyes.
A game combining the best of Fallout 3 and NV, though? If that was someones stated goal and they had the giant piles of money and manpower that this sort of game requires then I would absolutely be buying that game full price whenever it came out, or even preorder it.