So does me...

:blink: helping others makes you feel good................i dont get it. whenever christmas rolls around i could give crap about what people think about my gift cards and cash.............i just want my presents. mine mine mine!!!

there is a fine line between being helpful and being patronizing and way to many people cross it. one of my favorite parts of the movie gran turino was when his asshat of a kid and his dimwitted wife give him a phone with HUGE numbers on it. :rofl:

If only I knew what it felt like to help someone.

My guess is that you (the giver) care about all that stuff in general in the first place (feeling 1), then seeing it be successful brings another sense of pride (feeling 2).
So 1 + sucess creates 2, which manifests again as 1. etc. Might be weird to get a straight endorphine high off of it though.


I would have so much fun messing with you if we ever met. No hard feelings either.
Just wind you up and watch you spin.

Maybe move some furniture and hard corners out of the way so you don't hurt yourself.

Yeap, I hear ya. I spent a long time being a doormat for people. I'm also one of the few in my group of friends with a vehicle. You can imagine what that means. I've now cut off most contact from all friends that never gave anything in return, not even a shoulder to lean on when I needed it. The hardest thing was when someone who, once upon a time, was always there for me, has turned into exactly the sort of person who uses me- rides to clubs, rides hope from clubs, rides to the bus stop when she was late to catch her bus, rides to places when I didn't even have time to change out of my pyjamas etc etc. And now that she has a friend with a million-dollar beach house, she hasn't said a word to me.

And yet, I still try be there for people. Though now I don't have too many people to be there for, and that feels good

Feels good so I can bring it up when I need a favor. >_>

Simple survival mechanism. We are very likely to help those we feel akin to, based on very primal instincts. What help gives us this feeling is pretty much up to everyone's own personality. Some people with slight sociopathic tendencies don't get it, and worse cases even reverse it and feel the greatest pleasure in hurting.
But generally speaking, man is a nice creature to those near him.

Even if there's no one to thank you for your hard work, there's always the self-padding on the back, earning respect from yourself is equally rewarding.

I haven't helped people in a crisis situation or anything (Then again, haven't had the chance), but I do get a rush from explaining something I know a lot about already, which is primarily games. Whenever me and one of my friends starts a game and he's the newbie at it, I'll turn into the most enthusiastic teacher ever. It's great to see them get a hold of things as I help them out, though I often annoy them with overly long explanations.

Edit: 'Course, with many of today's games, the amount of hand holding provided by the developers has given me far fewer opportunities to do that at all. <_<

depending on the person, it can be one or more of the following: 1)boost to pride(and i don't mean pride in the good kind of pride), 2)boost to self-esteem or whatever you want to call it(the good kind of pride), and 3)satisfaction of knowing you have a meaning to your life other than your own self. and yes i realize not everyone will agree with this.

I want to see how you feel when no one appreciated your help.

Really? I don't think I've ever not gotten at least a thank you, or even ty.



I can't dispute that. For me I concentrate on computers and gaming. And I do feel a sense of pride after helping someone. I hope that's not wrong.




I do I do. My self esteem is up and down. When I help, it's way up there. That feeling to me is worth more than a thank you.....well, almost. (I like polite, and that entails saying thank you when one succeeds in helping.)

No. I feel like a svcker if I help anyone.

that concept in helping people works out some time, sometimes not so much.

if there is people in rl I will meet again like relatives,it usually works,and I may get some help from them if I need to,it is a win win situation.
even if I have done a fair bit of free computer support to some of them,it is at a minimum nowadays,a friend of mine had to pay a dude,free computer support is a no win situation,if something goes wrong with their cheapest possible parts it is my fault,if something goes wrong with their free software,it is my fault,if everything works out at first, it isn′t any thanks to get,and then they do some fixing at their own,and that is my fault and I have to get there and fix up their mess,all for free. So I have basically quit doing that. Suggestions of quality hardware is too expensive for those cheap [censored],and guess what,it is my fault

Online,pretty much a total waste most of the time,exception for a few places where I′m more at,can still tell the number on one hand where I have got actual help if I dare to ask,instead of negative feedback or cheap shots,and if I have something to contribute an actual thanks gets in return,it is nice when that happens
Most of the time it is only to get some feedback and get your self going,help your self solving an issue you got,and I suspect sometimes other people have it the same way,but I′m very selective in giving output of any sort nowadays, better of staying out

Its just what good human beings do, I love it as well, nothing in the world beats helping a stranger in need and expecting nothing in return. What goes around comes around, I live by this motto.

I feel ridiculously awkward when I help someone. I prefer to stay in my cold shell of solitude and silence.

I know I'm going to sound like an ass for saying this, but I don't like helping others. Too many times in my life I've put the needs of others before my own, and nobody ever did the same for me except my mother. People have taken advantage of me because they know I'm not an assertive person and rarely stand up for myself, and it's because of that that I became a very cynical person who expects the worst in people. The way I see it if people think they can use you, then they're going to use you, and being too generous just gives them permission to do that. My personal philosophy is that you should never give anything to the world without demanding some kind of payment in return. :nono:

When I am bothered to help someone, i don't feel anything,except that I just wasted time and effort on something that didn't need it.

Me too, OP. I can't help but feel good when I help others or see the happiness in people. I used to expect something back, which to my annoyance, never came. But now a 'Thank you' and a smile that says, "I like this guy" is good enough for me. Of course, I am careful to whom I help. It is usually strangers that I myself would be willing to help out, but not often to the people I know will use me. This inculdes one friend of mine, unless it is an absoulute nessesity.

I completely agree. Also you don't sound like an ass at all.

I also go by a very similiar philosophy (although mine has way more dinosaurs and time travel :teehee:)

Forever alone :homestar:

I love helping people!!!

preferably off a cliff

can't say i agree about human beings ever being http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/good. different from others, but not good; objectively looking at things, i've yet to see a human who fits the description that "good" implies.

oh, does this hit home or what... expert in my case it not necessarily "ridiculously awkward", but rather, was taught to but still a bit uncomfortable and its not really about cold shell of solitude and silence, but solitude, yes. i guess that means i am more selfish than i thought i was... eh, sigh, the pains of displeasing self evaluations. :S

I help people simply because I choose to do so, not for remuneration or anything in exchange, I do it because I guess that is just the way I am. Sadly there are too many "users" out there that either (try to) take advantage or once they get what they want loose interest. Yeah - I have met a few of them. :rolleyes:

eh, users who do nice things just to gain something?

idk. I hate helping out at those food place where all the convicts work but i love helping out animals at the humane society.

i smell a TRON reference rohugh :whistling: