Thinking little of an RPG that lacks even basic customization options makes sense, but it seems to short-sighted and/or selfish to reject games solely for having a male protagonist.
I disagree that it is short-sighted to play the game you want. Rather quite the opposite. I think you are wasting your time, and your money, to pay for something that you do not want. More then that, giving a company money to create something that you do not like is only going to give them incentive to continue creating products that you do not want. It is completely self-defeating.
I do agree that it is selfish to play a game that you do like however. Doing what you want without any concern for anyone else is absolutely selfish after all. Since it is my money and my time, I reserve the right to be selfish. Should I be selfless and play a game I do not like? Do you buy games you do not like, and spend hundreds of hours playing them?
I'll fully agree that females are terribly represented in the industry, with 9/10 female characters that do appear being stupidly obnoxious six objects. If a set character's gender is important enough to not play a game over, though, how is it also meaningless enough that the character can be expected to switch it without any change or impact at all? "Pointless palette swap" hardly seems like good representation either. If you want to make game characters blank slates who can be matched to whoever is playing, you're going to basically end up with no set characters at all; male or female.
There are two basic kinds of RPGs, one where you play a predetermined role, one where you create the role. Or another way of looking at it, is that some games tell you a story, some let you make up your own story. I prefer the second, because I do not want to play someone
else's character. I want to play a character of
my choosing, one whose background, goals, appearance, name, etc... that I create. I not only want a blank slate to start with - that only I fill out - I need it. Because I want a character that is matched to me. It works very well too, I have had thousands of hours of enjoyment from the ES games, and they all let you start out with a character that is entirely of your own determination. You may think it is meaningless to give paying customers what they want, but plenty of us gamers - and consumers - do not. Bethesda obviously does not either, because that is exactly what their games do, and it has brought them a great deal of success.