Would you date a smart person : Othor Games

» Fri Oct 08, 2010 11:27 pm

Self praise and glorification is in no way intelligent, quite the opposite in my opinion.

I think it comes down to whether "smart" suggests "intelligent" or "smart-alec". Often it's the latter, and apart from being irritating in itself there's also the element that people who try too hard to prove their superiority just invite scrutiny to see if there's evidence to the contrary; the infamous spelling flame being a good example in that the culprit nearly always has some glaring mistake in their own diction.

In other words, it's probably not so much of a problem with someone who's quietly intelligent and sees no need to make a point of it, but it's likely to be a big problem with someone who feels the need to assert their awesomeness (whether or not it's actually the case).

» Sat Oct 09, 2010 3:48 am

I'm assuming you mean smarter person. I'm not exactly the smartest ever, but let's just say, I've met my fair share of dumb people.

Anyway, sure I don't mind as long as they aren't intimidating or in-your-face about it. Humility goes a long way.

» Fri Oct 08, 2010 9:03 pm

You are right, but I think intelligence and humility should go hand in hand. If you really are more intelligent than the average person, then you probably wouldn't feel any need to point it out. Whether ......

I find it very unattractive when people reflect upon their own intelligence.

Humility should be paired with almost all characteristics. I would never date a physically gorgeous woman, if all she talked about was her fantastic good looks....and no woman should date any chiselled beef-cake of a man who only talks about his incredible musculature.

Emz's post above is most insightful. Humility is good. But CONFIDENCE (without arrogance) is the best way to attract others. Particularly for men to attract women. Regardless of media portrayals, intelligent people tend to be the most modest (usually TOO modest for their own good). It is the athletic jocks on the football/swim/lacrosse team etc.. who have learned to be loud and proud. They have sporting events, cheerleaders, and roaring crowds to boost their ego. There's not much in the way of human waves, and adoring fans charging the field at your average intermural chess matches.

A confidently intelligent gentleman stands out in a crowd....at least to the women with enough intelligence to look for him. The same is true for women.
Or, to put it in gaming terms. Laura Croft wouldn't be Laura Croft is she was just a beach babe with guns.

» Fri Oct 08, 2010 5:16 pm

I am dating a smart person. She got a 4.0 throughout high school, and a 4.0 the last semester in college, but she doesn't brag about it or anything. I hooked a good one for sure!

Good catch, bro :thumbsup: haha. My last gf had the same grades as me, D's and C's...just skimming by on barely passing is how I role B) She wasn't dumb or anything, she was just like me...the low end of average

» Fri Oct 08, 2010 10:10 pm

I don't date below my intelligence range, so they have to be smarter then me.

» Fri Oct 08, 2010 4:29 pm

I guarantee you your going to get a lot of no's (my prediction at least). The truth is people like someone who is near their level, whatever that may be. I'm hesitant to say an outright yes to this, I know smart people can be less than stellar in some ways. I'll go with a maybe, but leaning towards yes.

This. As I said in "Would you date a stupid person?" thread as long as I can maintain an interesting conversation with her, why not? :shrug:

» Fri Oct 08, 2010 10:38 pm

Yes.

» Fri Oct 08, 2010 9:19 pm

Will you go out with me?

You know I am married.

( I also can't figure out whether it's sarcasm or banter, you scamp)

» Fri Oct 08, 2010 6:17 pm

All other things being equal, I'll take the brains. Mmmm... Brains...

» Sat Oct 09, 2010 3:35 am

Oh good heavens, no! The smart ones will catch you when you try to slip something in their dr-... I mean they make me feel dumb. Is it hot in here? Got to go.

» Fri Oct 08, 2010 9:37 pm

Hmmmmm---Too smart and I might run into the risk of running into dull person who would look down on me as a non-intellect all because I can't descuss the theroy of space time and other nasa-ish mombo-jumbo. A Dumb person and I run the risk of lossing my nerves...I like a decent in between both smart and fun.

» Fri Oct 08, 2010 2:27 pm

Two different types of smart. Book smart and street smart. If the person is one or the other I'd date them. If they are both, they'd be a lot more intelligent than myself and I'd really have to get to know the person. I have issues with being wrong or outsmarted so I'd probably say no.

» Sat Oct 09, 2010 4:28 am

Hahaha ... yeah, the flipside to the other thread.

There's no point going out with someone so much more intelligent than you that you just cannot keep up with them in conversation - it's frustrating for both parties. I think you pretty much need to be within about 20 IQ points of each other. I've always found men who are somewhat more intelligent than me to be really attractive. I mean, even socially. I have a friend at work who I'm not at all physically attracted to, but I just love listening to his ideas on things and really enjoy spending time with him. Being super-clever is like being super-beautiful - it just becomes magnetic. Then again, I work with someone who's even smarter than that, and I just feel like a total idiot every time I say anything at all by the water cooler - but don't worry too much because everyone must feel like that. You know, one of those boffins where nobody can accurately tell you what he even does for a living because it's too technical. I couldn't date someone like that because I'd just feel completely intimidated the whole time, and we just wouldn't have anything in common at all.

Then thinking of another friend, and he's extremely clever and well known for being clever - but he plays on it a lot. If he talks about films it's always the most obscure thing you've never heard of. I like a lot of the same music as him, but he doesn't like the popular bands that I like - only the really, really unheard of experimental stuff. The thing is, although it would be a bit unfair to call him a hipster with a humour deficit, I'm married to someone pretty much as smart as him but who likes goofy comedies and action flicks and FPSs, and I just find that mix a lot more comfortable to be around. You don't have to be self-consciously intellectual to be clever.

^_^

Similar IQ's is something I was thinking about as well. Granted there can always be exceptions, but I'd like to think that similar intellect would show a trend as general social standing might, but maybe not to the same degree. And I do differentiate between IQ, and skill, and knowledge.

Also, I was referring to some of the more assuming people in my op, and it might not entirely be unrelated to intelligence. In general I think the more someone has, then the further they can go to escape humility.

» Sat Oct 09, 2010 3:44 am

The bigger question is:

Would a smart woman date me?

Good question.
Judging by my sig, I'll go with a confident maybe.