I wouldn't. I'm not one of those people who is desperate for a companion, and having to explain everything a second time is one off-putting aspect of relationships.

Since "intelligence" is in the eye of the beholder, hard to say this is all condescending - people are stating their thoughts based on what they see as intelligent in another person. My idea of what is intelligent and appealing to me varies widely from the next person I would imagine. As Archie's post below illustrates. Her interpretation of Sarcastic vs. mine as a personality type and an appealing attribute is quite different. Relentless negative "humor" attempts are not clever witty sarcasm - for me.



Stupidity and Intelligence as a quality in another person is so widely interpreted based on the individual. So I can say " I would not date a stupid person for any length of time" - but that person who seems stupid to me is not necessarily some IQ-bereft dullard - it's just someone who has certain personality traits or character attributes that I don't like. I am sure I have left dates with men and they were thinking to themselves "hmm, she didn't have a lot to say, pretty boring", and thought I was a little on the stupid side. They may be intelligent and successful in their sphere, but something about them did not pique my interest, which would in turn set me on "polite, quiet social mode", as opposed to my more normal chattier, silly mode.

I <3 Mr. Dark-wit.

Er, quite. Someone wrote about a stupid person not knowing when to stop talking and considering much of this thread I just found myself thinking "hmm". That said, I'm now questioning my own intelligence for writing this too... :confused:

OK...
I'm the stupid one for starting this thread.

She knows lots of things I'm 'stupid' about.

So she isn't into astronomy. So what.

I'm sorry I posted this.
Makes me feel like an elitist [censored].

Indeed. I knew from the start most people's definition of stupidity wasn't actually being stupid, but a euphemism for character traits they don't like. And just like the actual dating scene, a bunch of people who don't get it.

Well, you're not making out with their intelligence so I would say yes...and I'm not joking either, it sounds shallow but thats how I am :shrug: its really a plus if the person you date is smart just as long as their not a "know-it-all", but I consider myself a stupid person and stupid people like me dont really get along with the smarty pants. Also if they're smart chances are they are more concerned with work or school than they are with the relationship, and I'm the type of guy that puts my girl and relationship before everything so I want a chick thats the same way which is a bad habit to have since there tons of more important things than a gf but its just who I am, ever since I've been dating my last gf my grades dropped tremendously now that we broke up though they're are starting to rise again

Yes. Besides being a masochist I have a ridiculously high tolerance for everything.

Yeah that is true. I grew up in an environment where there was a lot of psychological abuse and a lot of it was in the form of sarcasm or assumed-sarcasm. I've also been told on more than one occasion that I'm not attractive to guys because my intelligence as "intimidating" :lmao: no loss missing out on those guys!



I try and get conversations going but I've had a few that were so bad I was left dumbfounded, guys for example on a first date the guy (some women make this same mistake too) makes the conversation all about their ex's or other conquests and one night stands and other girls they are interested in and would rather date if they were single, some would get really graphic and innapropriate stuff. :whistling: I don't even know what to say about that!

One guy actually had the audacity to take me to a play, which I thought was going to be a nice date, but it turned out his ex was working there, he knew she was going to be there and I was brought along as a tool to mess with her head, and this guy actually thought he would have a chance with me after a performance like that, he kept trying even up to the point where I drove him to his house and I had to tell him to get out of the car! Some people. :bonk:

This guy may have been well read and intelligent but his actions definitely put him in the 'stupid' category!



I lasted 4 months with Mr Eeyore, you can have him. :foodndrink: :ahhh:

Lame joke. :facepalm:

A cynic like that would definitely get on my nerves.

Yeh and it was more of a sardonic remark than a joke. He just saw the negative in EVERYTHING. The weight of the world was being carried solely on his shoulders and you could feel the gravity, if you know what I mean.

I wouldn't bring this up if it wasn't for your cute budgie avatar, but he also had these funny/crazy notions. He was bird-crazy, and knew a lot about parrots, butt he claimed up and down that the pink and blue given to baby boys and girl (humans) was labelled after the blue cere of the male budgie and the browny-pink of the female. :lmao:

Yep another inteligent-stupid person. I seem good at finding em. :spotted owl:

Eh, it goes both ways. The "I'm too good for those dumb people" posts seem about equally obnoxious as the "I'm so much better than these arrogant jerks" ones to me.

Plenty of people saying they wouldn't mind it, but considering the fact that there's no solid definition for declaring someone to be "stupid", I doubt many people would think that about someone without finding it to be very annoying. If they're not bothering you, are you going to jump to calling them stupid? Whether it's because they're stupid or not, I don't think these same people would want to date someone they find blatantly annoying.

It's just a different perspective. Ditzy and ignorant just doesn't appeal to me, no matter how "hot" they are.

It's not a feeling of "I'm too good for you", just a personality preference I guess. :shrug:

I have dated the stupor-ed....does that count?

(These days a date consists of watching her purse while leaning on the shopping cart in the Walmart lingerie department.)

Ugh the last date I went on was (last week I think?) with this girl that would not shut the hell up about her ex's and how big of losers they were lol, 95% of that date went perfectly, until she brought in the ex... It's the most awkward thing to sit through, you just sit there while they go on and nod, but the worst is when they go into one-night stand stories...

No. As others have stated, it would eventually become boring.

Well, this one really smart fella once said, "Let’s face it, most of us are not half as smart as we may sometimes think we are — and for intellectuals, not one-tenth as smart."

I apply this rule to my datin'. If I consider someone to be half as smart as I am then I would consider datin' them because they are really around the same level of intelligence as I am. I suggest some of the people here use this same method.




:rolleyes:



Nobody is sayin' "I'm so much better than these arrogant jerks." What people are sayin' is that some of these posters ought to have some humility when postin'. I do not think I am better than any of those posters, but I do think that some of them need to change their attitudes.

Meh. I do think that most people are not really taking this very seriously... only a few people have done the rather lofty "you all are acting all superior blah de blah so really I am a bit superior-cakes" thing. It's a kind of a silly question and a subjective one... kind of fun to toss around random thoughts on dating really. :shrug:

Yeah, I think that sums up what I was getting at rather better than my own rather clumsy attempt. I think it's a bit too easy to be hoisted by one's own petard when suggesting others are arrogant... and I can't claim never to have done it. :unsure:

In fairness, I did admit that I'm [also] stupid in my first reply! It's not like everyone posting here is saying they're particularly smart. There are horrendously dense people in the world, though, whether or not you're willing to say so - or date them, for that matter.

I think most of those who are saying people are acting 'superior' aren't really saying they're moreso. I certainly wasn't... Just trying to see it from both sides is all. :rolleyes: Sorry if it came across as 'lofty'...

I think the ones who get to me are those with huge reserves of confidence but who lack the competence to back it up. Maybe because I tend to get taken in by someone who speaks confidently even if I initially know they're wrong, which can be frustrating. Seems it's something I never quite get the hang of, which is perhaps not the greatest advertisemant for my own faculties, such as they are.

But that's not really a dating thing, so it's a bit off the point, I suppose.


Edit:

Same here. Can't say I saw any examples of that, unless I blinked and missed it.

You mean "hoist". :hehe:

I do? Life would be much easier if the quote just said "thrown". Edit: or disembowelled, or blown up, or including the entirety of the Holy Hand Grenade sketch.

Let me express my apologies for my small part in any pericombobulation; and now I'm disconcerted, nay anaspeptic to've found myself within -- albeit, rather, on the fringes thereof -- a discussion so magniloquent and verbose.

(Hoist, not to be confused with foist. Or joist.)

I don't think petards were really designed for disembowelling, being siege engines.