being in a relationship with both parties being equally aware that neither has feelings of love for each other? I don't just mean a sixual relationship, or a friends with benefits situation.

So whatt kind of realationship are you in if neither of those?

A 'loveless marriage' isn't really good for anyone. For that you may as well be committed to a wall (unless for some reason you develop love for the wall?). Being in a dating/committed relationship requires love/attraction. Otherwise it's just a monogamous FWB situation. If that's what floats your boat, then go for it. It sounds more like a relationship grounded in the fear of being alone, which is equally unhealthy. I'd suggest looking for an actual love. What's the point of being with a person if you don't love them other than knowing you're not alone because you're with someone (even if they don't love you)?

No. Why bother? At the very least you would need deep respect for the other person, which would probably turn to love. If it,didn't. It would likely end in infidelity anyway, so what's the point?

none, im not in a relationship any more.

Define "relationship."

companion, some one you live with or spend a lot of time with and share the same bed when sleeping.

Hmm, that's a good question then. I can't say whether or not it's possible for sure, but it does seem like it would become a massive pain in the ass after a while.

I think so I see it all the time.

well i didn't mean that it'd be a permenant thing, in fact that was the point of a question. how plausable it is to have a happy relationship with two people who know that they can't love each other, or that atleast one of them is incable of loving them.

both parties knowing its going to end, but isn't over yet?

EDIT: a romantic relationship is what i meant, i forgot to clearify that. although i think its clear now.

Depends on the situation.. it cannot work for most people. You are pretty much torturing yourself if you happen to be the one in love while the other has emotionally moved on from you, but yall are still "together". Think of it as an open wound not allowed to heal.

Absolutely. Love's really a very modern social concept. Traditionally, most marriages were made for benefit. Even nowadays, I see successful couples come out of arranged marriages and "marry for the kid" situations all the time. Nothing wrong with it at all.

Its not ideal and I can't see the real benefits of it but I don't see why not.

I thought this thread was going to be about changing lightbulbs.

Almost exactly what I wanted to say, only much more concisely put than I would have done. I'd just like to add that love isn't a modern social concept at all, but marrying for love is. In ancient Roman elite society for example, it was perfectly normal for a husband who was married for economical or political reasons, to pursue a romantic relationship with someone else outside his marriage.

All well and good, but there doesn't exist nowadays that type of society, so where would be the benefit of marrying outside of love?

Well that sounds like a red flag warning right there.

If feelings are involved, there will be trouble eventually. It's what humans do.

basically sounds like a train wreck waiting to happen. What if one person begins to, and ends up falling in love with the other?... while that person still doesn't love or have feelings for them? Sounds like a recipe for heartbreak. Though I suppose there is always an exception.

So it's like living with a roommate for the rest of your life? Well...it's doable, and if you're lucky and the other person shares some of your interests, there can be a sort of friendship forming. However, if the two of you have absolutely nothing in common? Yeah, you're pretty much torturing yourself needlessly.

I was in a similar situation to this. I was living with a girl that I loved and she loved me. We grew apart and she eventually left. I was heartbroken. She decided to give it another go after about a month and I got sick of it. I could tell there was no love from her and I was completely done with her impulsive and irresponsible decision making. We lived together for another month and it was a loveless relationship for 29/30 days. We remained together because it was mutually beneficial (she was closer to school and didn't have to commute, my rent was cheaper).

Thats what tribes, empires, and monarchies have done for ages.

Marriage for mutual gain, only more for to keep a stable peace, and keep wealth in the hierarchy.

It can work but it definately needs mutual gain. And in any case get yourself a mistress or paramour if you feel lonely.

Pretty sure my parents did this

That was like the last 6 months of my marriage. Its hell man.

Well, that type of society does exist. Arranged marriages are surprisingly common, and given the divorce rate for "for love" marriages, where's the benefit to those?

And, actually, there's quite a bit of benefit. Facilitating immigration and marriage incentives are two that come to mind. There's also that a relationship built on an understanding can often be less chaotic than a relationship built purely on a decidedly temporary emotional state.

Note, I'm not saying that it's perfect, just trying to get folks to look at it a bit differently.