Do you want/have kids? : Othor Games

» Sat Aug 22, 2009 8:16 am

But the hubs and I managed to have one of each. Both pregnancies were high risk.

Wow, hubs had one too, huh? One of those Mr. Mom moments.. :blink:

Now that's dedication! _{All I did was let her hold my hand during the delivery, and crush it.}
:P

As a single parent I've learned to be as much of a 'mom' as a dad can muster.. which is to say I do my best.

And yes, children do teach their parents. My son is teaching me about the present and the future, while I try to give him the benefit of my past.
And he's such a goof-ball

» Sat Aug 22, 2009 8:46 am

I can't have kids, sadly a certainty, but life conspired to have a little girl ask me to be her mum when her parents died or disappeared, so how does one say no to that?

» Sat Aug 22, 2009 7:17 am

I can't have kids, sadly a certainty, but life conspired to have a little girl ask me to be her mum when her parents died or disappeared, so how does one say no to that?

Sorry to hear about you, but nice to hear about your daughter, mom.

» Fri Aug 21, 2009 9:03 pm

Wow, hubs had one too, huh? One of those Mr. Mom moments.. :blink:

Now that's dedication! _{All I did was let her hold my hand during the delivery, and crush it.}
:P

As a single parent I've learned to be as much of a 'mom' as a dad can muster.. which is to say I do my best.

And yes, children do teach their parents. My son is teaching me about the present and the future, while I try to give him the benefit of my past.
And he's such a goof-ball

haha I should go back and edit that for clarity.
I may have been the one pregnant, but he had to endure the hormone swings, the crying jags, and the late night requests for peanut butter sandwiches.

» Fri Aug 21, 2009 8:17 pm

I can't have kids, sadly a certainty, but life conspired to have a little girl ask me to be her mum when her parents died or disappeared, so how does one say no to that?

Thats a kind thing to do, sadly here people tend to be selfish by having kids to milk the benifits system, would be a nicer place if more people were like you and adopted out of kindness instead of trying to get extra cash.

» Fri Aug 21, 2009 10:14 pm

haha I should go back and edit that for clarity.
I may have been the one pregnant, but he had to endure the hormone swings, the crying jags, and the late night requests for peanut butter sandwiches.

There were a few torrents of tears when the mother of my son realised Amsterdam wasn't a 24hr city and that certain things weren't available at 3am

like watermelon...

and learning not to say that it was just her hormones was a quick lesson in survival

» Sat Aug 22, 2009 4:26 am

Some of our parents chose to adopt because they didn't want to go through being pregnant. My husband's parents adopted him because they felt they had the resources and love to give to a child and give him and the birth mother a second chance.

Isn't being a parent somewhat always selfish? I don't think choosing to adopt makes a person selfish -- I think it makes them selfless like all parents must be to an extent. Please don't insult the brave birth mothers and fathers and the adoptive families who choose to bring adopted children into their lives. Some of us are adopted on these boards, you know. Seeing it as a "last resort" is a tad offensive to those of us whose families have opted to take that route either by biology or choice.

Congratulations to you and your family; you beat the odds, certainly

and I do agree with you that sometimes, children are a way to achieve status and benefits. All children deserve a loving home and to be nurtured.

I did not intend to insult adoptive parents, and parenthood is indeed, a selfish desire, regardless of how the child got there.
I thought I made that clear in my original post.

» Sat Aug 22, 2009 8:07 am

and learning not to say that it was just her hormones was a quick lesson in survival

Ooooh you mythical creature you.

» Fri Aug 21, 2009 6:12 pm

And could not having children be selfish if you are well enough to have one?

» Sat Aug 22, 2009 5:54 am

And could not having children be selfish if you are well enough to have one?

My mother tells me I'm selfish all the time!!! She wants grandchildren and she says I just keep thinking of myself. :lol:

» Fri Aug 21, 2009 6:47 pm

I say I don't want kids now, but who knows if my attitude towards the subject changes or not in the future? Anyway, as of the moment, I don't particularly want any children in my future and certainly not in the near future.

» Sat Aug 22, 2009 4:05 am

And could not having children be selfish if you are well enough to have one?

I think it's hard to be selfish towards someone who only exists in 'potentia' (See, I can make up words!).

» Sat Aug 22, 2009 2:02 am

I'm good with none. Maybe that will change some day, but I don't really care. Whatever happens, happens. ^_^

» Fri Aug 21, 2009 10:29 pm

Thats a kind thing to do, sadly here people tend to be selfish by having kids to milk the benifits system, would be a nicer place if more people were like you and adopted out of kindness instead of trying to get extra cash.

It was also the best thing that ever happened to me, so if that's selfish I'm gonna take it. The best things in life aren't free but they are worth it.

» Fri Aug 21, 2009 7:03 pm

When I was younger I wanted them but it never seemed to work out for me. Now at almost forty years old, I just don't care anymore. Sure would've been nice, But I guess it's not in the cards for everyone is it?

» Sat Aug 22, 2009 1:37 am

It was also the best thing that ever happened to me, so if that's selfish I'm gonna take it. The best things in life aren't free but they are worth it.

If you adopt out of selfish reasons it can be considered that.If you adopted out of selfless reasons then its not. Either way even if selfish people do bad things for good reasons, if a child gets a loving home and a parent gets a child to love then it dosent matter what the reason because its still a good outcome. The only time im actually against it is if the person adopts but dose so for money and dosent look after and care for the kid.

» Sat Aug 22, 2009 3:05 am

The answer is simple, if you cannot love yourself, you cannot love others..

» Sat Aug 22, 2009 9:19 am

The answer is simple, if you cannot love yourself, you cannot love others..

So it's OK to snog the bathroom mirror? phew

» Sat Aug 22, 2009 5:14 am

The answer is simple, if you cannot love yourself, you cannot love others..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GdLXfGTNBgE

» Sat Aug 22, 2009 12:43 am

The answer is simple, if you cannot love yourself, you cannot love others..

this is where I don't make a cheap remark.

See what responcibility does to you?! :blink:

Before my son was born I would have stenciled http://ufconline.files.wordpress.com/2009/02/vaseline_20368g_20l_profile.jpg word size eight and bolded, instead of just linking to it

Once again I grow as a human being, all because of being a parent

» Fri Aug 21, 2009 9:21 pm

this is where I don't make a cheap remark.

See what responcibility does to you?! :blink:

Before my son was born I would have stenciled http://ufconline.files.wordpress.com/2009/02/vaseline_20368g_20l_profile.jpg word size eight and bolded, instead of just linking to it

Once again I grow as a human being, all because of being a parent

» Sat Aug 22, 2009 5:02 am

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GdLXfGTNBgE

Yes of course, must we take it to extremes?

But seriously, think about it.. I'm not talking about extreme vanity here. True, when I look at my kids, even my youngest (my only daughter of 7) she resembles my features in different ways as well as my personality traits, my interests, my taste for some food, things we laugh about, etc. You see where I am getting at here? :spotted owl:

» Sat Aug 22, 2009 8:37 am

I may have been the one pregnant, but he had to endure the hormone swings, the crying jags, and the late night requests for peanut butter sandwiches.

I seriously wish someone would explain the whole "cravings" thing to me. A couple of weeks ago, my wife came home with a can of hominy and a pickled egg. I mean who eats that? I didn't even know what hominy was, I thought it was a can of corn until I opened it. She also had this strawberry jag that lasted for about a month. But on the bright side, I haven't had to get up at 5 am to go to Hardee's to get a sausage and gravy biscuit so I guess it could be worse.

» Sat Aug 22, 2009 1:23 am

and won't wreck the car.

Not true
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O89P4UwDVso

» Sat Aug 22, 2009 1:32 am

I seriously wish someone would explain the whole "cravings" thing to me.

I lack the "parts" and experience so I couldn't tell you for sure, but I figure the cravings have to do with the developing embryo or fetus telling its mother chemically that it needs certain trace elements so that it can develop correctly. For example, a mother kangaroo can change the chemical composition of her milk in order to facilitate different types of growth, such as increasing body size, nails, or whiskers.