I've had my kids, now I'm working on grandchildren (btw, granddaughter born yesterday morning 6lb 11oz ). Maybe in a dozen years I can start looking forward to great grandchildren.

Two sons, ages 39 and 35 and a daughter (the new mom) age 25. Six grandkids ranging from brand spanking new to 9 years, 3 of each type.

Ah, but you live in Manchester yes?


Congratulations! :foodndrink:

the answer is Yes


you know, you're going to die someday

on that day, you'll cease to be Zeno and you'll give up your uniqueness to obtain one trait that many dead people have in common: they aren't breathing

I like the way you said "many dead people", leaving space for those on ventilators and the brain dead.

You better hope it doesn't backfire on you because someone else will be laughing.

Actually I live in Greater Manchester in a Town called Rochdale -- Which has the highest Teenage Pregnancy Rate in England and the second highest in Europe. Or at least, it used to.

No. No family. Not that kind of person. Too much mood music and alcohol required...

You say a Town called Rochdale like its infamy for squalor isn't well known.

Why? Care to elaborate?

Congratulations Yasgur!

Good to hear :foodndrink:

Well, your stepson might resent you for the rest of your life :shrug:

Just an educated guess, it's not my place to tell you how to raise your kids, but I'll still say what I think is the most likely outcome.

Some parts are. Falinge, Kirkholt, Mills Hill etc are the horrible parts. I live in a place called Smithy Bridge which is mainly country side lakes and resevoirs. Unfortunately because of its vicinity to Rochdale It's classified as part of that borough -.-


Mhm. There's being tough to make a kid act more guyish, theres also spending time with him and being a farther figure.

I just learned today I don't have any kids. :whistling:

I want kids later in life, I think.

Nope. My wife says the same thing when he does something wrong. "I don't want him to hate me." hence the reason why he acts the way he does. Children need discipline. I got beat growing up. My brother got beat, my sisters all got smacked when we did something wrong, whether it was said or an action. We knew as children our place.

My stepson, doesn't know his place.

My stepson. Believes he is an advlt but he does not act like an advlt. He says what he wants, does what he wants. When he screws up and does something wrong my wife throws the...."I don't yell at him because I don't want him to hate me when he gets older."

I keep telling her, 'He is going to hate you because you don't discipline him."

I yell at him. Call him out on his attitude. Try to discipline him. The problem now is he is 10....there is very little an advlt can do to discipline him since he has had 0 discipline. I'm not worried about him resenting me in the future. Mainly because when he gets arrested and thrown in jail because he mouthed off to the wrong person at the wrong time he will realize that all the years I've been telling him how to behave, what to say and to listen I was right. Not him.

That is the problem with society today. No one disciplines their children. "Oh its cruel." "Blah, blah, blah...." They should bring back the days where a parent had the authority to discipline their children. I've been smacked with my father's belt, hit with a wooden spoon, thrown through a screen door. Guess what? I've never done drugs, never been arrested. I play violent video games, shoot guns. I was as a child disciplined by my parents. I can not do the same to my children because its not PC...the bleeding hearts of the world have made it so I can't. So now, I have a 10 year old stepson with issues when it comes to behaviour and discipline. There is nothing I can do about it.

Was there a time I resented my old man? Sure was. But I got over it before I could drive. Why? Because I realized my father was much more wise than I was and he came from where I did. He at one point in time was a kid too. And he got disciplined. My father, made me the man I am today.It was all because as a little punk screw up kid he disciplined me and molded me the way I am today.

One day, my stepson will realize he is nothing more than a little b iatch and it'll take him getting into severe trouble to realize...."I should've listened to what my step father was telling me."

I love my stepson...but I wish some kid his age would beat the living crap out of him. Because I can't.

I hang out with him. Take him fishing, to the movies, we go out and shoot paint balls and airsoft guns at one another. But when it comes to the things he does, and says....thats a different story. He gets yelled at...punished. But he acts like a little woman with things that he really shouldn't be bothered by.

There are other ways to discipline your kid other than "smacked with my father's belt, hit with a wooden spoon, thrown through a screen door". My mum never hit me when I was a kid, and guess what, erm, I haven't been arrested.

Your parenting method's leave me mortified.

Ain't got none and don't want none.

I don't have a basemant so I wouldn't have anyplace to keep kids anyway.

Well its all the same way I was treated, and I'm fine, more or less. Better than the ones who weren't disciplined, at least.

If I ever acted the way today's children act, I'd get an ass-whooping of epic proportions. Once you've felt the belt, it'll scare you straight.

EDIT: Mind you, I don't think corporal punishment is the answer to every problem.

Can we veer away from comparing parenting skills? And, you know, beating kids or wanting people to? I'd rather this (what was meant to be a nice happy thread) didn't get locked prematurely...

I'm currently 15 years old, I do not have kids, and I do not ever want to have any kids.

Ah god old greek mythology eh? Those gods know how to take care of babies.
Anyhow I find it very odd I want twin brother and sister for adopted kids. Is there some complex for this?

Snippered.

Poor Anime Plot Potential Complex. Or Owen Lars Syndrome.

I'm only 18, but I'd like to be a dad in the future.

I've grown up happily with 9 siblings (not all at once though!), so I'd like to have at least 3 kids, if I decided to have children.
Only problem is I'm not very... errr... well, good with children, but I'm sure that'll change in the future (probably). :wink_smile: