Yeah well, I hate advlts as well. And teenagers. And old people. And animals. So it all works out.


'Cept that those little punks are going to be mooching off of you for about two decades, and there's no guarantee that they'll let you return the favor when the time comes. These days, they'll probably just stick you in a home, so the only way you can get back at them is to corrupt their own kids and make their life miserable. Me, I think I'll just get revenge on them preemptively by not having them in the first place. That'll show 'em, and it's a lot cheaper too! :chaos:

I plan on adopting when I'm older. :yes: It'll be nice having a child to raise. ^_^ Kids are a lot of fun if you raise them right!

Now, however, I still have my own growing up to do! I'm only twenty.

I have a 3 year old daughter, and my wife is 3 months pregnant.

Okay, you caught me! I really just want to continue the family tradition of raising kids on a steady diet of belittling sarcasm and pessimism.

Oh, and I so want to be able to say, "Oh go hit each other with sticks" when they annoy me.

Probably one in the distant future. Right now, nada.

I don't have kids, but I really want them. I want to be a daddy.

Gotta find someone wanting to be a mommy first...

Kid's are the once certainty about my future, that is to say, I'm certain I want them. I dont know what career I want to end up in or where I want to live, but I know that some day I do want to have childeren. Just a case of being with the right person.

I do want children. And I am not getting any younger ad they say.

I am taking applications! hehe not really. Be we have also thought about adopting two children from China. Kinda like getting fruit trees as saplings rather than seeds. Less time waiting for them to grow up and take care of you.

Hopefully not. I may change my mind, but at the time being I dont want kids, nor a relationship at all. Most people say that though, and end up with a family anyway.

Yes but I want to adopt twin brother and sister when they are young, after becoming rich which I will be I will make them crossdress and go to their opposite six school ( note since I'm rich I own a boys school and girls school). Whoever can keep the secret of them being a crossdresser for the longest inherits both schools. Note that only happens if I become super rich. But in all serious not I would like to adopt twin sister and brother. No real reason though oh well :shrug:

I'd love kids somewhere down the line when I'm like 30.

Problem is, I don't think there are any suitable women out there to be the mother of my children. I'm young, though, so hopefully that will change. Girls around my college and such are all just [censored]s, so we'll see what happens.

I have one child right now. We will probably have another one. To me, my son is the greatest thing in the whole world. . . even when he wakes me up at 4 AM.

Yes, I do want kids when I'm older.

Yes. Eventually.

Congratulations!

They will change over time. Actually, the change from college to university was a big change for me. Some of these people make me feel dreadfully immature. I'm trying to cut down on the swearing, but its difficult when you spend your summer in a factory and then you're back among academics in the Autumn.


I remember two girls at college talking:

"I mean, hell, we're going to Uni in four months, I mean, people actually have proper, serious relationships, and half the people around here have never gone beyond merely kissing and going to parties!"


Yeah, I feel I'm letting everyone down that my greatgrandparents were married at my age. My mother keeps pressuring me for grandchildren. If I was gay she'd probably have disowned me as I would serve no further use to her.

I am a Father of four and in the 13 years of raising children, there are some things I have obtained about the experience. I can honestly say that I have learned from them as I have taught them right and wrong. Parents, learning from children? Yeah, it's truth but don't tell your parents . They have taught me how to be patient, how to love them, how to be protective of them, how to have a reason to go to work every morning. But most of all, I see their accomplishments. That makes me pretty damn proud. These kids are smart, athletic, full of cheer. I am a very fortunate father.

I would like to have 2 kids. Being an only child is IMO terrible. I hate it. Plus, I love kids.

Don't ever want kids. I don't hate kids, I just don't feel the need to have kids to have a happy life.

Yeah, I'd have to have at least 2, preferably one of each. I was an only child for a while, and it was crap. At least I had a wide number of aunts and whatnot, but I had nobody my own age until school.

Why is being only child bad ? Having an older sibling is annoying e.g they do something that set a standard, parents expect you to get the same.
Obviously the fights too.

We wanted to have children. I was told I repeatedly I was infertile. I accepted the fact that I would be childless. My options would be adoption. But I, with help from teh hubs, managed to have one of each. Both pregnancies were high risk.
A woman came out of the obstetrician's office, saw me hugely pregnant in the waiting room, and told me she hated me. She'd just miscarried, I'd seen her there before, and this was not her first miscarriage.
People don't adopt children out of desire to help anyone, they adopt because they have the desire to raise a child.
It is in a way, selfish. They have a psychological need to be a parent, and denied biologically, they resort to adoption.

If people don't want to have kids, that's fine. I admire people who have the common sense to know what their limits are.
If people want to have a dozen, half a dozen, or one, that's fine too. No matter if it is their progeny or not.
What I don't like is people who have kids to aquire governement benefits, and neglect their kids. Or those who have children as an ego trip, especially when the mother in question suffers postpartum issues and has further pregnancies are contraindicated for their condition. (Andrea Yates situation comes to mind, husband still wanted more children after her issues surfaced.)

What I can't abide is childless people on benefits telling working families that they're being irresponsible by wasting resources. We paid for those blasted resources!

Some of our parents chose to adopt because they didn't want to go through being pregnant. My husband's parents adopted him because they felt they had the resources and love to give to a child and give him and the birth mother a second chance.

Isn't being a parent somewhat always selfish? I don't think choosing to adopt makes a person selfish -- I think it makes them selfless like all parents must be to an extent. Please don't insult the brave birth mothers and fathers and the adoptive families who choose to bring adopted children into their lives. Some of us are adopted on these boards, you know. Seeing it as a "last resort" is a tad offensive to those of us whose families have opted to take that route either by biology or choice.

Congratulations to you and your family; you beat the odds, certainly and I do agree with you that sometimes, children are a way to achieve status and benefits. All children deserve a loving home and to be nurtured.

I look at it this way, if my disabled husband can get his ass up and go to work, as I do, and we support our family, guess what? Other people can too.
I agree with Ihaveafatdog's : If you can't afford contraception, you shouldn't engage in activity that results in pregnancy.


Having children to accrue welfare benefits is quite commmon here, and neglected children have other costs besides that of food and shelter.
Issues with learning, socialization, and psychological issues eventually compound the situation, and often the cycle is repeated.

Does that make me an ass? Yes. Do I care? No.
Because I have seen children whose parents spent money that should have gone to food on drugs. I have seen children wearing shoes three sizes too small. I instituted a program in public school that set aside unopened, unused, perfectly good excess foods that would have been trashed to needy families. When a child suffers for the sins of a parent, that's a tragedy.